questions about starting a new career and the family

[bell47]

Hello, I'm wanting to get the ball rolling on starting a new career by going to nursing school. This is not a new idea for me as I have been wanting to do this for about ten years now. The problem is my wife doesn't want me to go back to school because she says that it's unfair for her to bear the load of bills, house note, child care ect....and she says she doesn't spend enough time with our child now, so she can't work anymore. I don't blame her for that, because she works full time now. I totally get her point, but due to where we live( where SHE want's to live), I can't get more than low paying, crappy jobs, that don't support us anyway. It seems like the perfect time to go back to school(now that I got laid off from one of those crappy jobs). I've told her that I can work almost full time until actual nursing school starts, and I'm looking for another job to do this. My point is, this will be a vicious cycle of crappy jobs unless I go back to school. I can sum this up by saying I keep having really crappy jobs, that don't pay anything, and don't work out for very long, and she is sick of that, but doesn't seem to want me to do anything but have another crappy job that I don't like, for some company that will probably have another round of lay-offs. Honestly, I would think she would WANT me do do this(go back to school)! I don't get it. Any advice is really appreciated.

[bowade]

One year ago I was exactly where you are now, facing an economy that had flipped upside down with no real education to fall back on. With a new baby and mounting bills, I knew staying where I was would only add to the problem, so I took the plunge and applied to nursing school and was accepted. While it IS NOT an easy venture with a family, (and I still have to work) I know two years from now my wife can stay home with the kids if she wants to and we'll still be able to live life.

I will add this is not something you want to dive into with out the support of your family. And you may have to lose a few battles to win the war, agree to work while you go to school...tough but doable. You may have to help her understand if you do this it can (hopefully) ease some of her work responsibilities and allow her to work less hours.

My only regret is that I didn't do this 5 years ago.

Wishing you the best...

[ItsTheDude]

My only regret is that I didn't do this 5 years ago.

for many career changers that is very true, should have done it much much sooner.