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req_read

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  1. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    PS… “Intellectualizing” (and I don’t mean that in a good way) everything can be an addiction… a true addiction. It gives a false sense of control… which is often reinforced by society....

  2. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… Here’s the sad truth… lots of people are simply incapable of learning… and as you suggest, it is often the more educated and supposedly brighter people. This seems like such a paradox,...

  3. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… Yes… honor where the pt/fam are. But if there is a price to be paid, let them know what that price is likely to be beforehand; e.g. you can eat this favorite food, but the price will be...

  4. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… That sounds great! It’s good to hear about nurses advocating for better pt care and working conditions. And yes, it is hard to pour energy into fighting for these things when you’re...

  5. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    Some of family systems is pretty basic… the kind of thing a person would tend to do naturally… given the time that is. For example; my sister’s role has always been “little sweet.” If, as...

  6. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    My wife & I have to go up to Sarasota and will be gone all day, so more later. Quickly… Studying the patient’s family system let’s you know who plays what roles in the family; e.g. who is in...

  7. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… It would be interesting to attend your death. I suspect it would be one that would make the attendees feel good… which, by the way, is how I would classify or define “good death.” If...

  8. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… The original impetus behind this thread was the author of an article who purported to describe “good death”… and then she described symptom management. Symptom management is a good...

  9. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    When my uncle said, “But you ARE swimming,” that was the first time I thought of myself as a ‘swimmer.’ ‘Dog paddler’… maybe… but a ‘swimmer’ just the same. I expanded on it...

  10. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… Yes, I see your point about erring on the side of being reassuring. I would raise two points for your consideration however… First, it is good to develop a positive relationship with not...

  11. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… I think very little has been written on interpreting what the dying say. I have written some of course, but it is a wide open field for anyone who might be interested. Your story about the...

  12. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… What an absolutely wonderful story! Interesting… of all the things your mother could have said to your daughter she said the simplest, cut-right-to-the-point, most important thing. Here’s...

  13. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    P.S. Here’s a little dying people’s poetry. Last week a client of mine sent me an email. She said her father was dying and one of his remarks was: “Why do Raymond and I have to share the...

  14. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… One of the primary reasons why dying process fascinates me so much is because it separates the wheat from the chaff… it shows what life styles and coping mechanisms work and which ones...

  15. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… Thank you so much for sharing. Your experiences are extraordinary! Much of what is said by dying people, by poets and in religious literature is enigmatic… allegorical… metaphor. One has...

  16. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    Leslie… I didn’t think you viewed after death experience as bliss, but a couple of your remarks had me confused. No matter. Punishment? No. I view most religious depictions of hell as rather...

  17. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    P.S. But if we are so fortunate as to avoid the reaping, one must then wonder... so what was the point of the sowing?

  18. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    Philosophically, there is often a fine line between discerning the difference between intervention and letting things run their own course. When we see someone struggling with an issue that we have...

  19. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    Yes, it is often the difficult aspects to our lives that teach us the most… which I suppose is what Leslie was referring to. I have often said that if I could magically take away my blindness I am...

  20. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    We never really liked each other, my father and I. My mother had TB as a young woman and nearly died. Her pregnancy with me was accidental and considered to be life threatening to her. She came...

  21. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    Hello again old friend, it is so very good to hear from you. I shall meditate upon your words… This is all rather more poignant for me personally at the moment, as my own father is dying as we...

  22. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… By “forums” I meant this one, but also teleconferencing, instant messaging etc. I have a Mac that can do audio-visual instant messaging, although it is somewhat proprietary. I see that...

  23. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… Where in the world did you come from? So exceptionally insightful, articulate and persuasive! Being discouraged to the point of despair is unavoidable. The same hidden agenda of greed that...

  24. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    finn… Well this does puzzle me… and has for a long time. Playing around the edges of knowing… of discovering… the meaning of life has always enthralled me. My pulse quickens, my ears perk...

  25. Managing symptoms for a �good death�

    req_read replied to NRSKarenRN's topic in Hospice, Palliative

    Finn… Yes… some very good lines… “I believe I will never quite know. Though I play at the edges of knowing,” etc. I think that one of the difficulties in understanding what the dying tell us...