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NurseLife88 ADN, RN

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  1. I am just going to share my personal experience with the subject. I have three children all breastfed but all differently. My first was what most would consider textbook easy. He latched on well, he got plenty to eat, and both of us were happy and healthy. During this first experience I had only one interaction with a lactation consultant whom spoke with me about 5 minutes offered up some reading material and never returned. Thank my lucky stars it came easily. My second child initially latched on well but due to complications after birth he was placed on NG tube feedings. Therefore I had to pump. Pumping for me was uncomfortable and always had been but I still did it because the breast is best was always in my mind, even more so with the complications. The hospital offered the use of pump, freezer, and fridge. They were helpful and provided me with a lot of independence in my feeding choices. After the NG was discontinued it was not easy to get back into the routine. There were many tears and difficult times. I was still breastfeeding when I became pregnant again, not solely but approximately 2/3 of the diet. I ended up stopping as advised by my OB due to problems not gaining weight amongst issues with low milk production. My littlest was also breastfed. But never really seemed to be full and fussed often so I chose to supplement with formula and it made a big difference in size as well as fussiness. All babies are different and some do better with different methods. All mom's are different and the choice they make in how to feed their children is really theirs alone. Yes unless we live under a rock we all know the benefits of breast milk. But we also live in a time where there are so many healthy substitutes that may work better for some moms and babies. Breastfeeding may be great for some women and not for others. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all.
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    Please Don't Judge Patients

    Very nicely stated, This is definitely a big part of the message I wanted to get across. Everyone will have an opinion or feeling when reading this post, as with reading anything for that matter. But I am glad to see that the message can been spread, even if not always agreed with.
  3. NurseLife88

    Please Don't Judge Patients

    I really agree with a lot of what is being said here. Especially in regards to knowing it's human nature to judge and at times we may not be able to stop ourselves, or take a breath. Then yes it is important to leave those judgements at the door. Once you are on the job and providing care, every patient should be afforded the same respect as the next regardless of how we may feel on a personal level, at the very least because it is our job to do so.
  4. NurseLife88

    Please Don't Judge Patients

    I am neither suprised nor offended as that is my nature and as stated i posted online so i expected responses and diffeing opinions. So for clarification I do see now maybe I should have changed my title to "let's all remember to stop, breathe, and take a step back" and then possibly people would understand the message I wanted to convey. Which is that yes we are human and make mistakes. Yes we all judge people (some of us more often than others.) I was not trying to just explicitly say " hey everyone stop judging now!" I was more so attempting to get people to take a step back when they catch themselves doing it, and see beyond whatever it is you may be judging in the moment to see the picture as a whole. That doesn't mean you won't still think your patient is an *******, but it does helps to stay focused on whatever job you have to do and just get it done. Regardless of how we feel about our patients. When we judge people all those things we are judging can change the way we view a person, and for some that change in view correlates to a change in care. So no I was not trying to say don't judge anyone ever, I mean really we all know that's not really humanly possible. I was just trying to put out there to try and take a step back from those judgements as hard as that can sometimes be.
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    Please Don't Judge Patients

    It's not about having sympathy or empathy for other people. Nor is about making excuses for the people we treat. It's about understanding the fallibility of humans. None of us are perfect including our patients. We all make choices...one of them being to judge other people on the small part of them or their lives we see. But It seems I can't make a simple comment without it turning into a debate. I respect others opinions without being rude or judgemental just think it would be nice if everyone was afforded that same opportunity.
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    Please Don't Judge Patients

    Lol I'm sorry I find this funny bc it really does work every last nerve being threatened by a patient for the most miniscule of things but personally these are the times I find it is best to just take your mind from the situation at hand and do what I need to do to get the job done and move along to the next. But this is only me, different things work for different people. I once had a patient attack me punching, kicking, hitting, the whole nine. I was pregnant at the time and she purposely would go for my stomach. Of course I found myself judging this ******* crazy woman for what she was doing, but when I later found out she had had not one but two forcible abortions and it gave me a little more insight as to why she was crazy to begin with. Not saying this is the norm or that everyone has a reason to do what they do, just saying we are human we all have our own forms of crazy. May be the diabetic on ten cups of ice cream, the patient punching u in the face, or the lady that pushes the call light every five seconds. Annoying, yes. Crazy, yes. Human, yes.
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    Please Don't Judge Patients

    I don't expect others to share my opinion. Part of what makes us human is the fact we all have different opinions. Nor do I expect people to stop judging as that also is part of our being human. I simply wanted to get people to think about taking a step back from the thoughts/opinions that may rule in your head as you care for that diabetic patient on his 10th cup of ice cream and see the patient as another fallible human just like all the rest of us. Of course we will all still judge but to try to do less of it never hurt anyone.
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    Please Don't Judge Patients

    I mentioned LPN because I was that before an RN, yes they are both nurses so it speaks to my nursing history. Yes my job duties are the same, minus yearly health reviews of my patients. Work in a RCF facility and you would know it is anything but easy, most days I am lucky to leave unscathed bc of the violent nature of many of my patients. I have been chased with hammers, hit, kicked, spit on, and so much more. So no I wouldn't say it is easy to do this job. Also this particular patient in my story has a specific plan in place for times when they can't sleep included in this plan is the use of media and talking to help enlist a calming effect. I have plenty of experience both in life and nursing to be able to voice an opinion on not judging others. You don't need to be a nurse to learn to be more tolerant and accepting but this is a field where it definitely comes in handy. I simply stated my opinion after having a rough night, not because other people have to listen but because it never hurts to share. Unless of course you share on allnurses...then expect to be eaten alive for a small comment or have your experience and credentials questioned by people whom know nearly nothing about you.
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    Please Don't Judge Patients

    I work in a residential care facility doing third shift. I have been here ten years, recently changed my job title officially to RN but as point....none of my duties have changed, why? Because I have been providing nursing care since I began this job, i am not a new grad or new nurse. I am newly licensed as an RN but not LPN and because the nature of my job requires ALL cares be provide by me this includes personal cares, med passing, dressing changes, and anything in between including the mountains of documentation and paperwork. (Jus as fyi this particular job hires non nursing staff as well whom all do the same thing as i do minus yearly reviews) But I do have the occasional down time being third shift and working the setting I do, and yes I sometimes use that time to engage my patients even if that may be with a tv show. So although this may not sound like a nurse experience to you, all "nurse experiences" are different. I am more than willing to use any and all experiences in my life to help me change my point of view. No reason to be negative towards anybody and everybody when there are better ways to spend time.Just saying.
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    Please Don't Judge Patients

    Of course we all judge because as we both said, we are human simply put. And yea it is more than important to keep those judgements to ourselves and not let them affect the care we give. But it is also important for us to try and take a step back in that moment of judging and see this person for more then we usually do. Part of respect for me includes being tolerant and non judgemental of others, of course this does not always happen but sometimes simply reminding myself that we are human curtails many of those judgements I may have had.
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    Please Don't Judge Patients

    Its not easy to be a nurse, nor is it easy to be human at that. We make mistakes. We have feelings. We have opinions. And we also have judgements because thats human nature. But we are nurses. We should strive for excellence in health and it is our job and duty to do. So although after 10 hours on shift we may be tired, irritated, frustrated, and quite possibly stewing over the judgements we have made about this patient or that patient. I believe as nurses we can rise to the challenge of trying not to judge our patients. It is not easy and of course we may catch ourselves doing it, but in the moments we do catch ourselves lets try to just take a step back, breathe, and remember we are all imperfect humans. Plus...it never hurts to try. Last night was a rough one. As I attempted to lay a patient down for the 15th time I slowly found myself in a state of total irritation. Thinking in my head why does she keep doing this? I swear this only happens to me! Ok, now she is doing it on purpose! And lastly I found myself thinking wth is wrong with you?!? But as slowly as the irritation came on it quickly subsided when i heard her say..."Im sorry i cant sleep, my brain wont." This stopped me from what i was doing as I was reminded of why i was there. I was there bc she needed help, because she needed to be safe and well. I was there to do a job, not to judge her and wonder almost aloud what was "wrong" with her. I took a moment, we sat down, we watched TV, we talked about why her brain wont work. She smiled and laughed for no reason...so did I. After an hour, guess who was ready for bed? After doing the bedtime routine for the umpteenth time I found myself alone and in silence. But I also found myself with a new way of thinking and the simple way of thinking can change so much for so many. Because as nurses our job is to provide care to people during what is likely some of the most difficult and trying times of their lives. We also tend to major catalyst in the way someone is cared for. We are all human and during rough times we may not always be at our finest moments or remember how much our small actions and thoughts affect the way we treat others and reflect how we feel towards them. We must remember this about our patients always but we must also remember this when it comes to our fellow nurses and all humans alike. When you see the man yelling at all the staff down the hall and you think to yourself geez what a grumpy old man. Or when your brain injured client ask you the same question 13 times in 5 minutes, you think omg why do keep asking the same question?!? Or when you never seem to see the parents of that 4 year old peds patient and think to yourself, I would never leave my kid alone in the hospital. Well during these moments remember to stop, take a breath and not judge. Maybe that old man knows he is dying and is having a difficult time coping. Maybe that brain injured client didn't ask to be hit by a drunk driver and spend the rest of her life permanently confused. And maybe that parent you never see is struggling to work full time and provide for the other 3 children still at home. In times of sadness, illness, life changes, and everything in between let's all stop to remember our patients are only human, just as we all our. Our job is not to judge those whom we don't know, but to heal our patients and provide them with care and comfort during times of distress or need. Sometimes a simple smile or words of encouragement go far beyond what you know. And sometimes when we open our eyes just a little wider we learn to accept the fault of being human and we also allow ourselves to see our patients as they truly are...not as just another patient but as a person.
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