Sometimes I think people make up things about you to put in your peer eval. I just got mine yesterday so I don't know who evaluated me. To be honest, I'm not friends with everyone I work with. I don't try to be because I'm not there to be friends. I am there to do my job and care for my patients. A lot of the nurses I work with all hang out while I have a few friends at work that I will talk to outside of work. I have non-work friends as well.
To be honest, I can be quite frank and honest. I'm assertive. My voice carries. I can be a bit sarcastic and funny. I don't go out of my way to be rude and hurtful. I'm a human being for cryin' out loud. I cannot be happy 24/7. Just because I do not smile every five seconds and act bubbily does not mean I am a horrid rude person. Apparently, this is not true. I know I should listen to what my boss said "Take whats true, forget what isn't?". A lot of the peer evals, people put things in them about a person if they don't like them.
One of my peers said that I am rude and that they do not know when/if I am in a good mood. They said I raise my voice in front of patients and family and that I am rude to them. They said I do not smile at my co-workers or even my patients/families. And that I am a bad representation of my hospital and that I'm not a team player. That I will only help someone if I like them, a lot of this goes on and to be honest, it isn't just me. Perhaps, I did this in the past but as far as recently, I feel like I try to help out as much as possible. But I put my patients first because I do not want to miss anything.
Another of my peers said that I am a wonderful person to work with, but I am afraid of change. Our team has been through a lot in the last year and I recognize that this is an area I need to improve on. This particular peer also said that I help out with admissions, am a team player, will go out of my way to help even if I am busy.
To date, I've never been called into the office for being rude and nasty to a patient and/or family member. I've even asked my manager about this. No complaints from family or patients. I am far from rude and nasty and the peer's comments have hurt me. I believe I know the peer who evaluated me and we have had conflicts in the past. I made mention of this to my manager who agreed that the peer did bring it to her attention. For example, I confronted this peer about teamwork when I was busting my hump for my patient who was bleeding out. She was busy in the breakroom, screwing around and having fun with another co-worker. I admit I got frustrated and confronted her later on, only to have her tell me that I don't have great teamwork skills as well. I told her I do my best and walked away. My manager told me that when she spoke with my co-worker, she said to her "well there must be some truth to what she said because otherwise she would not have said anything"...my co-worker did admit that she could have helped me more. And I admitted to my manager that I could have asked instead of letting myself get frustrated. To date, I have not had any recent conflicts with this co-worker and we have gotten along.
I think my problem is that I try to be strong and do for my patients without having to bother my co-workers. One pointed out to me that I need to start asking for help because I don't. I am glad for his honesty and need to start asking.
Anyhow, sorry this is so long and rambling. I am just venting. I was a bit hurt by what my co-worker said in my evaluation but I know it is not true. And I've asked several co-workers of mine to be quite honest with me and tell if I have ever at any point been rude or nasty to a patient and/or family. They all said no. Mind you they work with me on a daily basis. The co-worker who evaluated me, does not. This was very eye-opening. My manager didn't have much to offer me besides the "Take what is true, forget what isn't", she didn't even interrogate me about what my peer said. I understand that peer evaluations are a way to point out things about a co-worker when one isn't comfortable saying anything but evaluations should be honest about how one really works and not full of lies.
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
ruby you are the voice of logic and reason and i love you. i completely agree. now had that person had the balls to sign their name, i would have taken that eval more seriously. all i got to say is...
haters be hatin'.
aw shucks!
i took the radical step of signing all the peer evals i did this year, even though they're supposedly anonymous. if you're not willing to take responsibility for your statements, they don't belong in someone else's eval!
I think what bothers me most about the anonymity of peer evals, is you have no way of knowing they really came from a "peer." I firmly believe that an eval I got a couple years ago had my peer evals completed by the manager doing the rest of the eval. But with the anonymity, how on earth do I prove it?
Thankfully now I work in another department. But we've gotten rid of our peer evals this past year. Not sure if that was because they forgot to hand them out, and they'll be back. Or maybe it's gone for good. Which I wouldn't mind. It's not my job to tell people they suck. If I wanted to do that, I'd apply for a management job!
Ruby Vee, BSN
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aw shucks!
i took the radical step of signing all the peer evals i did this year, even though they're supposedly anonymous. if you're not willing to take responsibility for your statements, they don't belong in someone else's eval!