Rooming-in Vs. Nursery Care - page 3
Rooming-in. This is the option we encourage most mothers and babies to enjoy. Full rooming-in allows you to exercise your mothering instincts when the hormones in your body are programmed for it. In... Read More
Sep 2, '05Joined: Aug '05; Posts: 144; Likes: 23I'm coming to this discussion a little late and I'm not sure I have anything to add to the discussion, but my interest in this topic compels me to share my personal experience. My husband is in the Army and I gave birth in the Army Hospital on base. Overall, the hospital is very good, and I'm not bashing their setup, I just tend to disagree with mandatory rooming-in policies because of my experience. I breastfed my son and had a lot of problems with his latch and got very frustrated. Apparently the hospital had a lactation consultant and we requested that she come several times with no response until someone told us (on the day of discharge) that she had been on vacation. After the first full day, my nipples were covered with bleeding blisters and I was in agonizing pain feeding him, I would have given anything for a break. Despite his poor latch, he was always hungry and when he did feed, he would be on the breast for at least an hour, rest maybe an hour and be back to it. My husband tried to help, but our attempts to supplement with formula (at that point I didn't care) were completely unsuccessful, he simply would scream and refuse the bottle until I gave up and just put him back on the breast. I remember one night waking up from a very brief nap during the night at my son's first little whimpers and staring at him and thinking that there was nothing worse than being a mother and that I absolutely hated it. These feelings didn't last long, in spite of the agonizing pain, I did not experience anything more than transient PPD, but I strongly resented the fact that at that time I couldn't call the nurse and ask them just to take him for an hour because it was strictly against their policy. I resented the fact that I had been going about 96 hours awake with maybe 8 hours of short little naps scattered during that time because from the very beginning, my son slept very little and when he did sleep, there were visitors in the room. The hospital has a policy that they will not even watch the baby while you take a shower, which was difficult enough for me and I imagine much more difficult for the hundreds of women who give birth while their husbands are deployed here at Ft. Bragg. I think it is appropriate for hospitals to strongly encourage rooming-in, and I understand the viewpoint that nurses should not be looked at as babysitters, but I think if a mandatory rooming-in policy is in place, there needs to be adequate support measures for mothers during that time, and I think something needs to be available for the mothers that get into crisis-type situations as I believe I was (I have probably understated earlier how much I hated being a mother when my son woke me up, I hated him, I hated my husband and I thought my life was over, if I hadn't been so tired, I might have done something about it, I was that crazy at that point in time.) Okay, I'm off my soapbox, sorry to be so long.
Sep 3, '05Joined: Jun '05; Posts: 174; Likes: 25Ooooooh, no well baby nursery. Oooooo, I'm in love.
Rachel makes a good point, though, that adequate supports need to be in place. I wish that we could get rid of well baby nurseries in the states.
Sep 7, '05Joined: Sep '05; Posts: 5We have rooming in and Do encourage that, but I am always very supportive of ANY Mom who feels a need for a nap or rest any time, night or day, and I welcome Baby to nursery during those times, and yes, you will have a much happier, more well rested Mother, who will appreciate the staff SO much for their consideration!! I have had 5 children, and those little breaks at 1 or 2 Am in the hospital were almost imperative for my exhaustion those few nights., Especially when you have a few others to go home to in a day or 2.I get very frustrated at a couple nurses on our floor who act "annoyed" when a Mom wants to put the baby in the nursery for a bit for a break. There are always nurses in the nursery anyway, so WHY NOT?? I Do think rooming in (in general) is wonderful however!! a Birthing Center must be flexible!! Kathie