I recently went through a very traumatic miscarriage. Any miscarriage is traumatic, but I ended up with a hemorrhage and a D&C under general anesthetic. Because of the anesthesia and the late hour, the doctor decided to admit me and keep me overnight rather than send me home afterward.
I was emotionally distraught as it was, but I was shocked and wounded to realize that I had been admitted to the maternity floor. Each newborn wheeled past my door and each tiny cry was like the proverbial salt in my wounds. My door was directly across from the nursery and though I tried to keep it closed, the nurses invariably left it open upon leaving my room.
I know most women who miscarry are not kept in the hospital, but when you do have a woman admitted, is it really standard practice to surround her with happy families and their newborns? Is this also the standard for IUFD?
I understand that there are specialties involved, but this really was the most painful part of the experience for me. It seems unnecessarily cruel to me, and I guess I hope by posting this I can change things for another woman like me.
