Nursing Students That Are Dating

[ffrraanncciiss]

Hi, guys. I'm actually not a nursing student but I'm dating one.

I'm just very desperate on advice right now and I'm sorry if this type of thing is frowned upon here.

We've been dating since Summer. We started as friends a few months before that. She's in her early 20s and I'm in the mid.

We both have an understanding that school is a priority for both of us (I'm a Psyc major). We both want the whole nine yards so far and right now, I'm having a hard time dealing with the fact that she doesn't have much time for me.

We have talked about it before and it has been issue. We both know it's only going to get worst since next semester, both of us will be super busier.

Is this normal? Is there anything I can do. I know seeing each other once or twice every 2 weeks is a big possibility, which most likely will be, and I'm scared that it's going to effect how I view our relationship.

Like I said, I'm sorry, but I'm just very desperate right now. Thank you.

[ffrraanncciiss]

That's not a joke.. I'm sure it happens in every industry :)

Anywho, I know she does make time. I just have a hard time seeing it when it happens, you know? Maybe that's my problem.

Just yesterday, she went to my campus and studied with me. Although I didn't really need to study that early/much, but I did it anyways to spend time with her.

Also.. maybe my problem is the fact that I may be "keeping scores." I know I go a lot further than she does (her school is far, my school is close) and how often I jump on the opportunity of spending time with her. I think that's something I have to work on.

Thanks guys. It has been easier since I've looked into this issue. I've told her I "looked into her program and now realize how hard it is" but never really told her how. Like I said, thank you.

[rnmama999]

Nursing school is tough for most but it can also be a breeze for some. My husband got away with skimming chapters and reading only the important boxes while I was very anal and had to read the chapter from front to back, back to front, and sideways lol. I just took my book and sat down next to him on the couch while he played call of duty.

I also know MDs whose relationships survived during med school and got married after. It is possible :-)

[abaloney77]

No offense but you sound rather whiny. If you "keep score" it's going to bite you in the ass.

Don't freak out on her or you'll be solo in no time flat.

Nursing school isn't hard, it's just an amazing amount of stuff to get though. It never ends

or lets up. I'm writing a paper at this moment and studying - yes on Thanksgiving day. It

never stops.

[ffrraanncciiss]

I never freak out on her. All I do is try to understand what's going on with her.

Fair enough, it may sound whiny, but I can't help how I feel and not saying anything would make things worst.

[scrlet]

I am a first year nursing student and my bf is also in school full time for I.T. something (lol) I have 2 kids of school age and our lives are crazy hectic. If we didn't live together, we wouldn't see eachother. My son played football on top of it all through most of the first semeser and that was 3-4 times a week. By the time we got home from school, got the kids fed, home from fb, showered and in bed, it was 9pm! Then I had to study. We made a study room in our house so that we could at least be in the same room. It gets tough and we always said we felt like we never see eachother even though we live together. We just know we can make it through and we try to make time for eachother whenever we can. Our rides to and from school together, use it to talk, or before bed we always try to curl up and watch a tv show or something together even though I usually fall asleep lol Just try to support eachother through it, it will be worth it in the end.

[NightNerd, MSN, RN]

Definitely try to be considerate of her needs with nursing school. It is better for both of you in the long run if she gets this degree and doesn't feel pressured into choosing between spending time with you and doing well in class. That being said, a good relationship takes SOME time, so I hope y'all will be able to provide some.

I have been on your side of the equation too. My boyfriend got his BS in Mechanical Engineering, and it drove me CRAZY trying to be patient with his study time. Now that I'm on the other side of it, here's what I would say works well for us:

-Studying together, as several other mentioned.

-Setting aside at least one "Sabbath" when we could just have a nice evening together withou interference from school (ours is Saturday evenings after 6 PM) - it helps to be flexible with this, but having that one period of time to look forward to helps get through the hard times.

-Doing really mundane stuff together that didn't involve school. We always feel ten times closer after we go grocery shopping. No idea why, but the little everyday stuff keeps you stronger together than the big stuff sometimes.

-Picking up a new hobby. If you're like me, you hate hearing those words, but you really are the only one who can make you happy. It's not her job to entertain you, even when she's not in nursing school. If school isn't keeping you busy enough, find a part-time job, exercise, cook dinner, learn an instrument - anything to make you feel good and relax you. Boredom will only make you insecure.

Hope y'all will work it out the best you can! It can be done with a lot of trust, respect, and love for each other!