just wanting to start a thread related to a certain topic that is lately becoming near and dear to me.
My children -- before I entered nursing school were amazing, and they're still amazing and good kids....but the behavioral changes, and r/t outlashing are jeopardizing my progress in the program (school disciplinary problems, general family tensions, etc.) Today, there were outbursts by 2 of my kids, causing significant tension between caretakers, school, and me.
Has anyone else, student or post graduate, either noticed some tension between their kids and adjustment, or their family r/t nursing school 2ndary to limitations on availability?
I'm starting to think I won't be given the opportunity to finish up the program unless something changes, and unfortunately, nursing school doesn't spend a day on lecturing how to transition and maintain sanity in the homestead.
I am only into school a few weeks and my daughter has acted out a bit herself. Mostly she's afraid she won't see me as much as she used to. She still sees me a lot in the mornings like she used to but it's just earlier in the morning. I make a point out of making her breakfast for her so she knows I'm thinking about her. Mostly it's keeping the routines about the same as before, I just do them a little earlier than I used to. A big part of calming things down is stressing that this is only temporary. She's now settled into the new routine and things do go a lot smoother now. Unfortunately, she's now in the throws of the typical 3rd Grade stuff where she feels that she needs to test the boundaries... much like the rest of her classmates.
I get the feeling from the poster that shipped her kids off to other people, that this was a long time coming and was not something done lightly. Some defiance is to be expected, even welcomed as it's a sign that the kid's starting to become more independent. However, the kid also needs to learn that there are behavioral boundaries and there are definite consequences to not following the rules. Sounds kind of like real life...
While that is not likely to be an option for us, in her household, it may have been the only option she had left outside of actually neglecting her kids and making them fend for themselves.
akulahawkRN, ADN, RN, EMT-P
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I am only into school a few weeks and my daughter has acted out a bit herself. Mostly she's afraid she won't see me as much as she used to. She still sees me a lot in the mornings like she used to but it's just earlier in the morning. I make a point out of making her breakfast for her so she knows I'm thinking about her. Mostly it's keeping the routines about the same as before, I just do them a little earlier than I used to. A big part of calming things down is stressing that this is only temporary. She's now settled into the new routine and things do go a lot smoother now. Unfortunately, she's now in the throws of the typical 3rd Grade stuff where she feels that she needs to test the boundaries... much like the rest of her classmates.
I get the feeling from the poster that shipped her kids off to other people, that this was a long time coming and was not something done lightly. Some defiance is to be expected, even welcomed as it's a sign that the kid's starting to become more independent. However, the kid also needs to learn that there are behavioral boundaries and there are definite consequences to not following the rules. Sounds kind of like real life...
While that is not likely to be an option for us, in her household, it may have been the only option she had left outside of actually neglecting her kids and making them fend for themselves.