Nurses on unit finding out about probation status

[Nursrcy00901]

So how do you deal with other nurses gossiping and being rude about your probation status? Going as far to look up your license and nitpick your stipulations before you've even started? I plan to go in with my head held high because I've made such great growth the last year, but it still stings I didn't have a chance to get to know people before being transparent. At least the cats out of the bag- but I'm still disappointed. My job didn't tell anyone- a nurse who I know took it upon herself to look my license up and tell the unit- which management is now working on

[Healer555]

I can't imagine looking up someone.  That nurse clearly has her own issues.  I'd be polite but no more. 

[NurseJackie69]

It's not your fault.  It's her fault.  I am an open book with my recovery which is.........part of recovery.  I can tell a stranger (if I want to) about my recovery background within 2 minutes of meeting her or him.  Doesn't matter to me.  I can tell someone what hand I use to wipe my *** with and how much toilet paper if they ask and literally.......No Shame.  Do Not Care, period.  That's the sweet part and beautiful part about recovery.  No shame and no secrets and it's truly like a natural high being able to live like this.  With the above written, I do not let people mistreat me or take advantage of me because of my recovery.  If it's a problem at work where it could effect my advancement or patient's, then I would go to higher ups because you can't have someone literally mistreat you.  I have conversations about recovery in the breakroom and hall about how I am hosting a meeting on Tuesday night for AA, etc.  

Remember this....and this is Very Tough to Do.......we can't expect ANYTHING when people are aware of our recovery, whether we tell them or find out.  We are not to expect a Good and Receptive Response or a Rude and Hateful Response.  We turn that SHI* over and get it out of our mind and let the moron who has a problem with us deal with it.  This ties into the first paragraph.  Once again, I have found that most people are very receptive to my recovery.  Of course there are 1 or 2 at work......there are 1 or 2 at work at every workplace who is going to take advantage or try to belittle you.  Think about the other 90% that will likely be supportive and unfortunately, the most receptive people at my work are the x ray staff, Doctors, ancillary staff, secretaries, etc, and most nurses.  The one group that I have the most issues with ?  You guessed it.  The same one's the speak about how "compassionate and caring" they are.  That would be.....nurses.  But even then, the overwhelming majority are very supportive.  

But, if you are being literally mistreated.  Take it to the Boss.  You can't have that going on and that's not fair.  Do NOT engage with the "child" who might be trying to bait you either.  But, one way to brace yourself in the future for this to possibly not happen again is to.......GET the CAT out of the BAG early.  It's tough.  It's not easy to do.  It deals with letting that shame go, but make it known to everyone at work you are in recovery and where Recovery not on your arm......Wear it across your chest.