Nurses secretive about getting another job

[Emergent]

We have a Per Diem nurse 'Karen' who also is Per Diem at another hospital where I used to work. There's others from there and a lot of back and forth. Another coworker who also works both places let it slip to me that she thought Karen was now orienting at a 3rd nearby hospital. There's some of our nurses who work there as well, lots of openness, no restrictions from management at all.

So I sent a friendly text to Karen asking how she's doing, that I hadn't seen her in awhile. She said she's been really busy with her daughter's graduation. Mind you, she and I have been workplace friends. I later confirmed with a nurse that went to that 3rd hospital fulltime, staying Per Diem with us, that Karen has been there a lot orienting.

So, Karen is being secretive, which is ridiculous since nursing is a small world where it's going to all come out in the open anyways. No one would ever bat an eye about her picking up another job since there've been fewer of the day shifts that Karen likes available lately.

So, why would someone be secretive about this?

[kp2016]

More importantly why do think she owes you any sort of explanation? Seriously mind your own business.

[frequentFLyER]

Even if you were BEST friends, nobody owes you or anyone else an explanation of what they’re doing with their life. Maybe she could care less about the nursing grapevine. Maybe she has more things going on in her life than worrying about informing her coworkers of her every move or worrying about what they think about it. It sounds like you feel negatively about her with how you describe her and the fact that she’s “jealous” of your per diem shifts so maybe you two are not very close and she isn’t interested in giving you a play-by-play of her goals so she can receive judgement or superficial support in return. Not everyone is open and vocal about everything they’re doing and it doesn’t have to have a secretive or devious motive.