new RN, first job, having tough time, need advice

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So I'm adjusting to working in the ED and really do enjoy what I do for the most part in terms of the actual job and the care I provide. I enjoy the fast paced and collaborative nature of ED work, and I feel like I've learned so much and now want my CEN and Trauma certification.

What's the problem, you ask? I'm normally a very relaxed person, but the last 3 months I've been overloaded with stress - experiencing nightmares, losing my hair and having my chronic psoriasis flare up all over my face and hands! It's gotten to the point where I actually dread going into work if I'm working the acute area and not trauma or critical (where the complaints are actually valid)

What I find extremely difficult about my ED in particular is the patients. 9 times out of 10 they are nasty no matter what you say or do. My ED is in an inner city hospital with a very low income patient population. We're a Trauma Level II hospital and see a lot of gunshot/stab wounds, sexual assault, drug overdoses, etc. ETOH and drug abuse runs rampant, a good 1/3 of our patients are prisoners who verbally abuse you or harass you while you're just trying to do your job. I get threatened or cursed out on almost every single shift.

Of course there are the regular complaints about wait time - people lying to my face saying they've been there 8 hours when I know from their chart they were triaged less than an hour ago. But then there are the drunks peeing all over themselves, screaming for a sandwich, calling me a ****** when I explain we don't have any food and then demanding I go across to Peds to get them some juice. Then the abd pain people who are no joke, sleeping or eating right there in no distress at all, complaining and complaining that they're in so much pain and, oh, they also need a Dr's note for work. Then the drug seekers who claim they have a history of sickle cell and are experiencing a crisis, then they get irate after you explain you can't give them more than the 6u of morphine and 4u dilaudid you just gave them... and then you get the CBC back and their WBCs are 100% normal and the pt is still saying they're in pain as they're nodding off in bed. the guy who comes in claiming he missed his methadone dose today, doesn't have his clinic card to confirm his program dosage, and after waiting an hour claims to now have chest pain as he's sleeping in bed (really knows how to work the system)... the people with asthma who come in reeking of cigarettes, they take a couple of treatments and walk out before even being seen by a Dr., the confused elderly woman who has no idea why she's in your ED other than her daughter just "dropped me off" right outside...

I have seen patients physically assault each other, elderly patients just abandoned there by their kids, patients lying about sexual assault to get people in trouble, drug seekers, the same ETOH patients every. single. night.

I know I'm a good RN, I don't have a lazy bone in my body, I know I do my job well, and I shouldn't have to require the patient's approval, but for some reason it just makes me wonder why I do what I do - why I voluntarily go into a place to work my @ss off and to only get grief from patients in return. ?!?

It's a large city hospital too, and I so don't want to end up like some of the other nurses - absolutely jaded. How do I not care enough to let the stuff get to me but still care enough to provide good care to everyone?

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
That must have been a cool wedding! But, girl, where was Security? You can't go around swinging a fire extinguisher!!!

What was up with that freaking out of control pilot??? Scared I guess, but it just goes to show you - he could probably handle any flying emergency, but when his baby got hurt, he freaked.

They caused a sensation to say the least. They knew I was leaving the state....I knew many of them from babies. They always kept me "safe". They came, said good-bye, gave me a gift and left. I was humbled by their affection.

The fire extinguisher...you bet you can use it. I didn't hit them with the can.... I sprayed them. They were in a waiting room FULL of people and children. Our 1...count him ONE... security guard...armed with a radio was wresting with a psych patient in the ED. The police were on their way.

They threw a chair and shattered the triage (where I was sitting) window. The chair hit me and gave me a head lac requiring stitches. I got the fire extinguisher and sprayed them into a corner...it got them to stop fighting. All that CO2 cold smoke got their attention long enough, I told the I would freeze protruding parts of their anatomy next, it shocked them into stopping as the police walked in the door.

YOU sure can use a fire extinguisher to protect every other person in that waiting area...idiots. They went to jail.:yes:

That airline pilot was not frightened. He was a self centered arrogant control freak misogynist who felt entitled and probably beat his wife.

Well, I am not even sure where to start...

It is evident that you are, indeed very unhappy with your position but remember, as a new grad without any experience at all, you are blessed to have been offered a chance to begin your career. Your perception about the patient population is not appealing! As a professional, you should understand that nobody chooses to visit the ED just because they are drug seekers or drunk as you have classified your patients. I also believe that you knew beforehand the type of hospital you were going to work. You should also know that pain is subjective and you have no right to determine wether they are lying. If patients are cursing...guess what? Suck it up and kill them with kindness. That is unfortunate our patients have not had the same opportunities we have had. Do not discriminate them. I am an ICU nurse, and I have had patients who wanted to kill me, and sometimes make my work miserable. I deal with it easy & breeze!

So, if you're loosing your hair, having nightmares, diarrhea and psoriasis bursts all over, I highly suggest you to look elsewhere. Another RN would snap that position with passion and dedication in a heartbeat!

Everybody scram! It's clearly an administrative rep that wants us to attend yet another mandatory "caring" seminar to learn more acronyms. :***:

Either that or a nurse that deals solely with intubated and/or heavily sedated patients.

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