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Where if not here is the best place to ask nurses- I'm a 30 y.o female, planing to get a degree in nursing. I would have to do about 4 years of school in order to get an Associate in Nursing. I keep hearing that nursing is hard, both school and labs, and that one needs a LOT of time to commit to studies. Basically, you don't have a life if you do that. That does not scare me, I only want to get an honest advise from those who has been doing it on top of changing their life- I'm planning to get married and have at least a child during the nest 4 years. I would like to both enjoy my marriage and mother life and not stress out so much that I lose my mind or to not be able to give enough attention to my family. Please do let me know if ADN degree is worth it? Thank you!

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Whether or not an ADN is "worth it" and whether or not it's possible to do what you're planning are two separate questions. Of course it is possible to get married and have a child while taking pre-requisite and then nursing program coursework; at least it's possible for those who have done it successfully. Others have not.

Your circumstances need to be pretty darned ideal in order to pull it all off, such as iron-clad childcare arrangements for lectures/labs/clinicals you simply cannot miss. You have to have the kind of dedication and focus needed to make the most out of whatever study time you have. Some have it and manage, and some do not. Only you can really know you...know what I mean?

Worth it, well, that's also up to you. You absolutely will be "giving" on every front. Marriage time, baby time, study time. How it all balances---if it does--will decide whether for you it is worth it. I do wish you well in figuring it all out ?

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18 hours ago, Waiting for Retirement said:

Whether or not an ADN is "worth it" and whether or not it's possible to do what you're planning are two separate questions. Of course it is possible to get married and have a child while taking pre-requisite and then nursing program coursework; at least it's possible for those who have done it successfully. Others have not.

Your circumstances need to be pretty darned ideal in order to pull it all off, such as iron-clad childcare arrangements for lectures/labs/clinicals you simply cannot miss. You have to have the kind of dedication and focus needed to make the most out of whatever study time you have. Some have it and manage, and some do not. Only you can really know you...know what I mean?

Worth it, well, that's also up to you. You absolutely will be "giving" on every front. Marriage time, baby time, study time. How it all balances---if it does--will decide whether for you it is worth it. I do wish you well in figuring it all out ?

Thank you for posting. I liked this point, I never even thought about it too much and I completely understand that it's very important.

My head is full with questions and I am looking for an insight someone can give me knowing the rough picture which is: I am planing to change my job and travel every 2 years to different countries, because that is what a military spouse life is (my future husband-to be is military). I was thinking it would help me to have a profession which is in demand pretty much everywhere in the world. I want to be able to secure a job either paid or unpaid in order to build experience and to get out of the house. I do have passion for nursing and I am confident in my skills. I have another option where I can get a master's degree in a different field and go that direction, but there is no job security. Thank you for understanding.

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5 hours ago, LegoLand said:

My head is full with questions and I am looking for an insight someone can give me knowing the rough picture which is: I am planing to change my job and travel every 2 years to different countries, because that is what a military spouse life is (my future husband-to be is military).

If you are going to get your nursing degree, you need to get it soon. Once you start a nursing program, it will be highly unlikely that you will be able to transfer nursing credits to another school. You will need to stay in one place from the start of nursing classes to graduation.

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On 8/28/2019 at 5:00 AM, LegoLand said:

I do have passion for nursing and I am confident in my skills. I have another option where I can get a master's degree in a different field and go that direction, but there is no job security. Thank you for understanding.

I don't mean to be insulting and really hope you don't take it that way but you cannot be "confident in your skills" because you do not have any yet. Not to discourage you, you might be a first-rate nursing student when you actually become a student, but I have seen MANY "passionate/confident" people who do not succeed in nursing programs. It isn't rocket science but it does require some unusual demands and specific character traits.

You cannot have a "passion" for something you have never done, only heard about...you can have a strong interest and I applaud you for that, entering nursing school without a strong desire to be there doesn't work! What happens once you're in is often unpredictable; strong flexibility is crucial. "Passion" goes out the window when other situations demand the same time and attention as schoolwork, such as having a child.

Commenting on what another person said, moving every two years might work once you've completed school and only if your spouse moves to an area that needs nurses. Some regions of the country have shortages and others definitely don't. I wish you lots of good luck in figuring it all out ?

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