Okay all you wonderful pre-nursing students, I need an opinion. We all know how competitve this whole nursing program thing is, right? Okay, let me start from the beginning - I have a group of 3 friends that I have studied with for the last 1.5-2 years. We basically met in our first semester of pre-reqs and now we are all done. Okay - we have shared (almost) everything together. So it was not a hard transition for me to share the areas I had shortcomings in when I took the TEAS recently. So far so good - doing what a friend should do, right? Well, my friend got a better score than I did when she took her exam today. Said to me that she knew she couldn't have done it without the info I shared with her. She added as an afterthought that she would be surprised if I didn't pull somewhere in the 90's on my 2nd and final attempt at the test. Here is my dilemma - 1) I am having a real issue with feeling jealous - how stupid! and 2) I am worried that maybe what I have done constitutes cheating. I didn't give her any answers to any questions - there would be no way of doing that. What I did do was give her specific examples from the exam that I took so she could work on them.
Back to #1 - let's just say I don't do any better next time around - have I effectively given my friend an advantage over me into the program...my husband says even if I have, maybe it is meant to be this way. Oh - I am so confused!!! I hate the way they make this thing such a competition!
Anyway - any thoughts are welcome. I know I can trust you all to be honest and to understand my plight. Sometimes family just 'don't get it' if you know what I mean
I think what you are feeling is only human, and I've been there too.
I debated sharing my A&P photos & quizzes with my classmates knowing that they could use it & may get in sooner than I do.
Yes, they may have, or they could have made it without my help.
There isn't a way to prove it, and there isn't a reason to.
I agree with your husband, you'll get in when you are suppose to. This hurts, but I'm sure there is a reason, if you don't get in.
As far as cheating, no, I don't see that it is.
Try to work through the negative thoughts as soon as you can. They only hurt you in the long run by hardening your heart.
If a friend of yours gets in sooner than you do, think of it as someone to lead the way...to be your heads up....a person to go to who's been there already.
Good luck.
Okay all you wonderful pre-nursing students, I need an opinion. We all know how competitve this whole nursing program thing is, right? Okay, let me start from the beginning - I have a group of 3 friends that I have studied with for the last 1.5-2 years. We basically met in our first semester of pre-reqs and now we are all done. Okay - we have shared (almost) everything together. So it was not a hard transition for me to share the areas I had shortcomings in when I took the TEAS recently. So far so good - doing what a friend should do, right? Well, my friend got a better score than I did when she took her exam today. Said to me that she knew she couldn't have done it without the info I shared with her. She added as an afterthought that she would be surprised if I didn't pull somewhere in the 90's on my 2nd and final attempt at the test. Here is my dilemma - 1) I am having a real issue with feeling jealous - how stupid! and 2) I am worried that maybe what I have done constitutes cheating. I didn't give her any answers to any questions - there would be no way of doing that. What I did do was give her specific examples from the exam that I took so she could work on them.
Back to #1 - let's just say I don't do any better next time around - have I effectively given my friend an advantage over me into the program...my husband says even if I have, maybe it is meant to be this way. Oh - I am so confused!!! I hate the way they make this thing such a competition!
Anyway - any thoughts are welcome. I know I can trust you all to be honest and to understand my plight. Sometimes family just 'don't get it' if you know what I mean
Thanks everyone. As I said in my original post, I know I can count on the people here to understand, be honest and encourage. You are all such a blessing to me and I just want to say THANK YOU!
I am feeling a lot better tonight. I have been able to really put things in perspective and I KNOW that whatever happens I was being a friend and my heart was in the right place. If I go and let my heart get hard - then what kind of nurse is that going to make me, right???
Anyway - everyone, thank you so much for always being there...or maybe I should say here
Fun2, BSN, RN
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I think what you are feeling is only human, and I've been there too.
I debated sharing my A&P photos & quizzes with my classmates knowing that they could use it & may get in sooner than I do.
Yes, they may have, or they could have made it without my help.
There isn't a way to prove it, and there isn't a reason to.
I agree with your husband, you'll get in when you are suppose to. This hurts, but I'm sure there is a reason, if you don't get in.
As far as cheating, no, I don't see that it is.
Try to work through the negative thoughts as soon as you can. They only hurt you in the long run by hardening your heart.
If a friend of yours gets in sooner than you do, think of it as someone to lead the way...to be your heads up....a person to go to who's been there already.
Good luck.