Need some advice

[mkriebs]

Ok, I am not sure if this should go in here, but I would like to get advice from males that are, or are going to school to be nurses.

Basically, here is where I am at. I am 22, and have an associates degree under my belt in Fire Science. I decided to change direction and I am going to the community college for my CNA. In the fall of 2010 (god willing I get accepted) I want to go to UIC in Chicago. I pretty much have that set in stone (pending acceptance of course).

WELL... my girlfriend dropped the big one on me the other night (no, she's not preggo, lol). She wants to go to Grad school in Europe. Now, we have only been together for 4 months, so were not completely attached yet, but i do love her, and I think she is the one I would like to settle down with. I had planned that when I went to UIC, she would move in with me and get her grad school out of the way in Chicago.

So, I guess what I am asking, is... are there any credible online schools to get my nursing degree from? Say I moved to Europe with her, and did online schooling. Now, I have a job that could be international if I need it to be at the moment. So that would cover alot of living expenses. But I am not giving up my goals and dreams for her, and i really don't want her to give up anything for me.

I am aiming for my RN, so please no LPN schools. And as much advice as you can give me would be greatly appreciated. And... if you have any advice to give me to try to convince her to stay here, I'll take that too, lol. If i thought a ring would do it, I would have been at the jewelry store yesterday.

Please help!

[K.P.A.]

Almost all women in their early 20's are the center of their own universe. Study women carefully before choosing one. You need to do a lot more research than you would before buying a new car. Do you have any idea how many more women than men there are in nursing school? Think man! Think!

[MarkE86]

KPA is right - depsite all the psychbabble about how women "mature" earlier than men (whatever the hell that means), I have found that pretty much across the board women in their 20s have a huge tendency towards selfishness. Even the best of them. I watched it in my three sisters, I see it in my coworkers and classmates and pretty much everywhere you look in today's society. It's excruciating to watch in healthcare because I'm there because I want to take care of patients, and my coworkers (I work in a primary care office during the day) couldn't care less about the patients. They just like walking around in scrubs carrying a stethoscope and thinking they're God's gift to the world because they can take blood pressures and decide whether or not patients get to see their doctors (except for Erin, if you're reading this...you rock).

Errm, all ranting aside, there's nothing wrong with giving her the opportunity to pursue something if she wants it. Be upfront with her though, because you shouldn't have to give up what you want either. If it's meant to be, things will work out. If she really cares about you, she'll work with you to come up with a plan where you both get what you want out of life and can still be together. She needs to know that you are serious about this and that you're thinking marriage someday....I made that mistake....dated a girl for two years before dropping the "m" word...she turned green and dumped me on the spot.