need advice please....pregnancy & nursing programs

U.S.A. Massachusetts

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Hi,

I hope someone might be able to offer me some advice... I am feeling very disappointed lately and feel nursing is going to be an uphill battle for me due to competing goals in my life.

I am in my mid thirties and recently married. Due to my age, my husband and I want to try to have kids as soon as possible. We don't want to have to put this off several years in case we run into problems and for various other reasons.

I also am trying to make a career change into nursing. I have been taking pre-requisites and have been doing well. I spoke to the admissions people at Mass Bay and just asked them what happens if you become pregnant while in their program, assuming that a nursing program that has mostly women in the program would make accomodations for someone who was pregnant if they were doing well in the program.

I was told that I would have to leave the program and it would be difficult to get back in. She said very difficult, not impossible, but due to the competitiveness much less likely.

I feel so discouraged. Are all nursing programs like this? I thought of all professions this would be one that would be understanding of the fact that life sometimes happens along the way. I have never heard of such a thing before. They said that it was due to you not being able to perform the clinical duties. I had hoped in these situations they would work around this and allow you to do duties that still allowed you to work in a nursing capacity but with less physical risk etc.

Is it unreasonable to expect this from a program? This is very important to me.... but so isn't having children.

The earliest program I could even attempt to get into would be fall 2008 for a full time program or spring 2008 or spring 2009 for a 3 year part time program... assuming my grades were excellent.

This is going to put me at around 38 or maybe even 39 before i could finish a program... and we want to have more than one child.. Never mind knowing whether you will end up with fertility issues that delay things even more.

Does anyone have any advice for me? The other thing I thought of is trying to get pregnant now, have a child and go to school with a baby. This doesn't sound like a very fun idea either... although I know many of you women have struggled though this and gotten through...

Does anyone have any advice, or any thoughts on other Mass. RN programs that might be a little more understanding? I have a bachelors degree already and was going to do an ADN RN program. Seems to be very few accelerated Nursing programs around, and I wasn't sure that was a route I wanted to go or not.

Thanks for your help.

It is probably a matter of timing as much as anything else. However, what you were told concerning your proposed school's policies, sounds harsh. In our BSN program we had an older mother (I believe she was in her early 40's) who became pregnant with her 7th child and everybody thought that was ok. As I recall, we had about 2 semesters to go. She kept up. If anything, I would have thought that she wouldn't be able to function well because of her morbid obesity. She was very obese to begin with. I think during the last semester, the clinical instructor was making special "accommodations" for her, as they seemed to have a particularly good relationship. Take heart from the stories about the people who delivered during their school term but were able to continue. Be proactive in finding a program that you can work with. Good luck.

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