mommy guilt

KThurmond · Dec 4, 2015

Not a broken record, sometimes I need to be reminded otherwise I will cry lol. I have 18 months left. Yes, I am very lucky my husband is supportive. This has been as hard on him as it is on me. He encouraged me to go to school in the first place. But, I think he is ready to have his wife back someday soon lol. I do need to do more nice things like planning a date or what not, he knows I couldn't do this without him! Good luck to you by the way, all of moms need to stop being hard on ourselves (myself included!) and remember we are doing this so our kids can have a better life and we can achieve our goals at the same time.

Thank you. When my mom picks him up I'll follow to the car and he looks at me as if to say "why aren't you coming". That gets me and inspired me to start this thread. I wanted to hear from other moms. 18 months will fly by. I read on here that some people give their kids coloring and/or activity books to do while they do schoolwork. That might be something to do with your 6 year old. Hes old enough.

KThurmond · Dec 4, 2015

Oh man, I know I'm going to be feeling plenty when I start school in January. I'm already dreading leaving her for school. It's been me and her every single day since the day she was born. But I gotta do what will be best for the family in the long run. And hope that she won't remember me being gone or studying all the time years from now.

Good luck. This sounds exactly like me. Hes spent every day with me except for the occasional night or 2 at my moms. He still sleeps with me since I couldn't afford a crib. Tax time lol hes used to my attention and im worried about giving him abandonment issues. But like you said, they so young they probably wouldn't remember. Plus we'll have the money to buy them stuff to make up for guilt :uhoh3:

rollieschmollie · Dec 5, 2015

Good luck. This sounds exactly like me. Hes spent every day with me except for the occasional night or 2 at my moms. He still sleeps with me since I couldn't afford a crib. Tax time lol hes used to my attention and im worried about giving him abandonment issues. But like you said, they so young they probably wouldn't remember. Plus we'll have the money to buy them stuff to make up for guilt

Its going to be so hard. I get anxious just thinking about it. Luckily my mil will be watching her and I know she's someone my girl feels safe with. Like mentioned above I plan on having her color and do little things like that next to me while I study and try to get her involved. She loves to color so I think it'll work out. She's 20 months so there not much she'll understand lol. My husband is building me a shelf desk and we plan on him adding on a lower extension for her to sit at right next to me.

Then by the time I finish school and nclex and finding a job she should be starting to get into a pre-k program. By then she'll probably be like mommy who? Lol.

I don't know if anyone else does this, but it might help you since your lo is still very, very young, but I keep a journal for her. I use to write in it once a month, but now it's once every few months since now that she's more active there's no way I can do constantly. I explain to her what we've been up to, major events in our lives, stuff like that. Maybe documenting your nursing school journey for lo to read when he's older will help with some of the guilt? That's what I pan to do, instead of letting those feelings stay bottled up inside.