management not sensitive to bullying present on unit

[sabatical]

My management is not very professional went it comes to dealing with horizontal violence or bullying. I feel that this manager may not be worth working for.

Management has taken the approach of "blaming the victim", which is , I guess, the fasted but not the most efficient way of dealing with horizontal violence on the unit. I guess that,... they feel I am dispensable, or I am not too valuable to the team.

What can I Do ?

[sabatical]

Thanks for stating that bullying is a result of poor management. I have already confronted the bully, but she just walked away from me. The management won't take my complaints seriously because this bully is praised by management as being a "super nurse".

I don't understand, the location is already in hot water, nobody professional wants to work there. I'm surprised management doesn't take things more seriously.

[country mom]

Thanks for stating that bullying is a result of poor management. I have already confronted the bully, but she just walked away from me. The management won't take my complaints seriously because this bully is praised by management as being a "super nurse".

I don't understand, the location is already in hot water, nobody professional wants to work there. I'm surprised management doesn't take things more seriously.

Good for you for standing up for yourself- you don't have to give permission to anyone to walk over you. The fact that she walked away says alot- this person lacks the skills to be able to discuss a matter with you in a civilized manner. That "super nurse" thing is a big facade- a smoking mirror to hide a pitiful lack of self-confidence. And the management puts their faith in this "super nurse" because they themselves don't know what they're doing.

[sabatical]

thank you so much for your response. It's made me feel better about the whole problem.

[rn865]

Hello,

I just addressed this topic in a previous post "Forgive and Forget" where I shared how bullying can escalate to a crime if left un-checked. In my case, relentless bullying led me out of the field and although it might not have been my tormentors goal, I today am better off because I left. Today I help adults who are going through career transitions and many are interested in nursing. I came to this board to learn from others and see different perspectives. However, bullying is a hot topic for me because I was victimized for so many years while nursing management turned a blind eye.:redbeathe

I'm sorry to hear about your experience. But, you sound a lot wiser and stronger because of it. I only wish I will grow like that too. Going through something as well, although not as severe as yours probably. I wonder whatever happened to those bullies of yours? I bet they are tormenting someone new.

[rn865]

I think it's best to confront the bully on her good day without her audience, when she least expects it.

NOT a loud confrontation, but take this person aside. Remind her of her actions, let her know you won't tolerate it and will report this to management if it continues. Follow up on your threat, if she continues the behavior. If managment ignores you, it's best to leave this toxic work environment anyway. One can only be bullied for so long, before it affects your self esteem and your health. Bullying is the results of poor management!

Great suggestion. Did not work in our case though because the bully is too immature to even see how her actions affect other coworkers.

[sabatical]

I give up. I wish there was something else I could besides nursing.