Am I Nurse Material? - page 3
I made my decision to go into nursing. It took a 4 day stay to Childrens Hospital last year with my 5 week old daughter. What I saw there in what seemed like a year changed my life. I have never... Read More
Jun 24, '09Please don't go on whatever someone else says - only you know whether it is right for you. I am sorry that your mom isn't supportive. I have always supported my kids in anything they wanted to try. Sounds like there are other issues that might be in play. Go for it. If it works out, great. If it doesn't you haven't lost anything. Don't sit around and wonder if you should have...
Jun 24, '09I agree, Nursing is a very wide range career. Just to name a few, Hospitals, home health, nursing home, then to follow, all of these can be broken down into sub areas, such as peds, neonatal, geriatrics, etc. etc. Doctors office. Depends on what you want. I know some, that like to move around in different areas, just to get the hands on experience.. My brother is a RN, wanted experience in ER, after working with psychiatric ward, and they would not move him , so he found another hospital that would allow him to work in ER- two months later, that hospital he left, called back and offered more money, and let him work in any area of his choice! LOL. Gotta love it..
Jun 24, '09Thank you, thank you, thank you for all your support! I am going to volunteer at East Jefferson Hospital in the postpartum dept. That will give me a pretty good idea of what nurses do and how it feels to work in a hospital. I am so excited to give some of my time. It will also help me gain some.
I have to do my very best to get good grades in my pre-requisites. If not, I will never have a chance of getting into nursing school. I can't shake the fear of not getting accepted. Knowing me, I won't want to keep trying to get in. I know they say, if you don't succeed try try again, but..... I could only take being rejected once. Yes, I do want to be an RN more than anything else, but my fears are getting the best of me. I need to go scrapbook! Its my stress reliever.
Jun 24, '09Quote from qaqueenYour story somewhat mirrors mine..... I say somewhat because for me nursing wasn't on the radar in the beginning. But after all of these years, it has come into focus, and as I look back, I can see personal instances of events that have happened in my life that, while I didn't recognize them as such at the time, all prepared me for this point in time. I agree with your viewpoint on nursing as a calling and a vocation. It's more than just another job.Nursing is as much a calling as it is a vocation.
I too started college at 17. I was going to be a nurse. Life got in the way and I worked my way up in manufacturing to a very good paying job that I eventually hated.
Three years ago I gave up the money to pursue a nursing career. I graduate tomorrow. Over the last three years I have worked in the hospital as a CNA for not much money and quite frankly, I have had some of the best days of my life. I am so looking forward to obtaining my license so that I can do even more for my patients.
If you feel it, go for it.
Love and Light,
Jun 24, '09I have a similar story as well. My father was sick for several years and he had many, many things wrong with him. It was then that my morbid fascination with medicine began, but it wasn't until the night he died, that I decided that I wanted to be an RN. The nurse that was there with me took care of me as much as my father. She sat and waited with me, talked to me, and held my hand while my dad was being worked on by a team of doctors. She must have sat with me for well over an hour and I know she must have had other things that she needed to do.
My mother believes that nursing school is the wrong choice for me. She keeps saying "you don't want to do that. All you will be around is death. " For me though, the opportunity to give back what was once given to me is absolutely worth it. It is hard to listen to others and let their opinions steer you in your choices; I have been there too. I think for the first time in my life, I have reached a point where I don't care what anyone else thinks or says, I want this and I am going to work my booty off to get there. I actualy have a marketing background and I just started a business, but when I got my acceptance letter in the mail last week, I was so excited.
It is those things that happen to us in life, like watching your daughter in the hospital, that inspire us to take different paths than we may have chosen otherwise. Good luck in your endeavor. You have the determination to make it, just believe in yourself because you have it in you!
Jun 24, '09Quote from RN hopefullAnatomy and Physiology are the foundations of nursing. Without all those biology courses, you wouldn't know what the next courses are even talking about. A&P is actually my favorite class (so far). Make sure you take tons of time to study. Handwrite those notes. Focus on one topic at a time. Make sure it's time that you don't get interrupted by your kids. I know it's hard, but very possible. Get your mom to watch your children for a couple of hours here and there (she'll love the bonding time she will get with them, alone). If you don't understand a topic, write down your questions and either contact your instructor at that time, or ask them later in class. Before moving onto the next topic, understand the one you are working on. They are all built on top of one another, so it's imperitive that you understand everything. If you can't get ahold of your instructor, or have to wait until next class time, try to do some research (on the internet or other books) that will help you understand that topic better. Sometimes childrens books will help break things down into simpler terms, enough to get you to understand "Oh... So THAT's what they are talking about!" If you are still stuck, then try skipping that part for the time being (make sure you have those questions written down first), then attempt to move on to the next topic. This way, you are utilizing every single moment of your study time that you planned for (say if you were at a library for only two hours while your mom or whomever watches your children). Make the most of every minute! THose are my tips for studying with children! If you come across any that help you, please pass them along to me! Good Luck and I can already see your determination just by reading your posts! That determination will pull you through! Many Blessings!MystyqueOne,
Thank you so much for your support. I have two daughters, who are 3 1/2 and 10 months. I have a business degree that I completely hate. I have been thinking for a good while that I needed a career change but didn't know what to change to. Suddenly, I found myself at childrens hospital and it suddenly hit me. i remember the first thing I said to my fiance was, "I can see myself doing this"
I am trying to forget what my mom said but its hard as your mom is the one person who is supposed to be there...unconditionally. I am not going to deny I am scared to death of nursing school. I have to say getting accepted scares me more than actually having to study. If I were to get rejected, I would be so upset. I was hopeful that my cousin was going to go on this adventure with me but she is no longer able. It would have been nice to have someone to study with while I take my pre requisites. I have 4 biology courses to take. Biology 141/143 lab, A&P I & II, biology 211. Any advice on those would be appreciated!
Jun 24, '09RN Hopefull,
I know how you feel, afraid of failure. Please don't let this hinder you as I vowed to myself, after having no college credits up until age 31, due to getting married at an early age, that I would keep going forward no matter what. I was afraid of all the test needed to enter college, since I had been out of school a while, and comparison of grades since I did not try my best in high school. Ever since this promise to myself, I maintained all A's in my courses. And I gained nothing but optimism through it, so failure is no longer in my mind. I am claiming that I will be in an ADN program this Spring! You need to get the negative thoughts out of your head. I know it's easier said than done, but if it means changing your surroundings, then so be it. This is your career and it will benefit your family.
Jun 24, '09Why don't you change your screen name from RN Hopefull, to RN WILLBE! Start the optimism now!
Jun 24, '09Dear RN Hopefully,
My girls were 2 and 3 when I started nursing school. Believe it or not, it was easier then, rather than when they got into school with activities, etc.
YES; having someone to help support you emotionally and physically with the kids is very important. Nursing school is HARD, but not impossible!
Only you can answer the question of if you have what it takes. After reading your posts, I can clearly see the answer. You've been thinking about this, and have passion about the idea. You will work your tail off in nursing school, but you will never regret it.
Good luck!!!! YOU can DO IT!!!!
Jun 24, '09BTW: My youngest daughter would sit in my lap and help me "read" my nursing textbooks; it was cute at first, but I was so high strung and anxious about my study time....
She is now in college....premed--wants to be a surgeon (pulling a 4.0 :-) She has told me she remembers how hard I studied and how happy I was when I did well in class, and she thinks about that when she's studying and attending classes.... AND she thinks about how much I love my nursing career....
YOU GO GIRL!!!
Jun 24, '09RN Hopefull/RN to BE
Doesn't it help to know how many of us have been in your shoes? I also had a degree I felt was useless (unless I wanted to work for the CIA or FBI--no thanks), a job I tolerated, but couldn't stand to do the rest of my life, one child, and parents who told me, ten years ago, when I told them I was planning to go to nursing school, "Why? Your husband works, it will be hard on the kids, it will be bad for your health...what if you get sick again...what if...what if...etc....." Basically they were against it from day one, to the extent that my mom would agree to watch my son during my pre-reqs, and then flake on me continuously to the point that I decided to wait for a while. It was only my husband who said, "You can do this, you will do this, you were meant to do this, and I will do everything I can to help you."
I am finally about to graduate in December, and now, my parents grudgingly accept the fact that no, my children (I have two now) haven't been emotionally scarred by having their mother busy, nor has my marriage fallen apart. I've managed to keep my health up in spite of the stress of an accelerated BSN program (I had a few flare-ups of a chronic but stable problem over the past few years, but now I know how to keep it under control).
So, what I'm saying is, that parents have all sorts of reasons for saying things, most of them selfish. From my parents perspective, they were worried the burden would fall on them. Well, we live in another state, so they've never had to help out in any way. Now, I hear from others how "Proud" they are of me, and how great it is that I went back to nursing school. Makes me angry, that they would use it as a way to make themselves look better, when they did everything they could to prevent me from going (especially as I am the only child of 5 to have finished college, and will now have 2 degrees). But, not going to waste my energy on it.
And, as you get older, you realize that you have to follow YOUR intuition/ambition and what is in your heart, not what you think is an "acceptable career." Don't stress yourself out too much getting volunteer experience, although some is good. Focus on your coursework and your kids, and be prepared that when you interview for nursing school you will be asked about how you will plan to accommodate for them (will you have a live-in nanny, day-care, or what). Sometimes, if you have average grades and average test scores, having kids can be enough to possibly cause a denial (It happened to a friend of mine, who has struggled at times through the program-she eventually got in).
So, make your plans, follow your heart. If you have put up with as much BS as it sounds like you have, you'll do just fine with nursing (unfortunately, in some ways). You'll learn the terminology, the procedures, and everything else, and it will be good for your children to see you accomplish such an important goal.
You can do it...you will do it...Thank goodness you already have one degree so you don't have to do a whole lot of BS over again!! We need strong, determined people like you who have lived life outside of high school and college, experienced the real world, and can bring real-life smarts and compassion to the profession!!
Sorry so long...sheesh, I really got going on this topic..but, truly, best of luck, and you will make it.
Jun 24, '09If I could have all of you guys in front of me right now, I would give you the biggest hug ever given! I can't believe how many supportive replies I have gotten in 1 day. They come on a day when I really really really needed some positive feedback. I am having so much trouble with Delgado. If I can actually get everything straight w/ them, I just might make it to Charity! Ok, I just did some scrapbooking pages for my daughters albums and I feel so much better. I can't thank you enough how much support you are giving me. A million thanks and may God bless you guys Always!
I am more determined to succeed! Can't wait to give you the news "I'm going to Nursing School!" THANKS!
Jun 24, '09First, I want to offer you the thought that YOU are the captain of your own ship...not your mother. That said, your post brought back some interesting memories for me.
When I told my family that I had signed up for nursing school, I remember my mother telling me, "I don't know why you bother. You'll never finish it. You never finish anything you start!" Yes, that hurt, and it certainly wasn't true, but those words were the 'burr under my saddle' that I needed on those really rough days of clinicals. I was determined to do this and by heaven nothing was going to stop me! Even though I was in my early 30's at that point and knew I'd be 'competing' with all those 'young kids' who were starting just out of high school. It made me nervous and the school even had a name for us "older" students....."Non-traditional Student." (Thanks....just stick us with a label before we even begin! )
On the very first day of classes, they put us in an auditorium and told us to look to our left and to our right. There must have been 300 of us in there. The woman leading that class then said, "Take a hard look at the person to your left and right, because only one of you will make it to graduation." Yikes! I thought they wanted us to succeed....not weed us out with a scythe! I lost track of how many times I said or thought "I can NOT do this!" but I kept going. Frustration, tears, lack of money, no days off for months at a time, working full time and going to school full time, taking classes straight through the summer......none of it stopped me. I saw classmates who had relationships fail and even a couple of divorces from the stress and strain and I still kept going. I had times where I wondered if I'd done the right thing or if I'd just set myself up for failure and often wondered "Am I NUTS?? What was I thinking?? This wasn't in the brochure!!" (I swear that every time I saw a light at the end of the tunnel, it was attached to a really big train!) Some things came to me very easily while others did not. It was a lot of work but I finally got through it.
At my pinning ceremony, when I was walking back down from the stage, I briefly stopped to get a hug from one of my classmates. I felt a tap on my shoulder and turned around to see my father. He'd walked up to the edge of the stage and gave me a huge hug! Everyone applauded and I had tears in my eyes. He was just beaming with pride! :heartbeat
Now, 20 years later, I look back on a great career where I've had the opportunity to help people, save lives and made some incredible friends. I've worked in hospitals ranging from 7 acute beds to over 1000 beds and have done travel nursing, as well. I'm still working in a hospital setting and love what I do. I'm a long way from retirement (I'm a very young 55, now) and am always looking for new things to learn.
The moral of the story.....follow your own path, wherever it may lead you. No one can choose that path for you and even if you take a detour now and again (such as the business career you regret) you still are the beneficiary of the knowledge and experience that you gained in the process. You've really lost nothing by that detour. They say that life is not about the destination, it's about the journey. So true! The destination is nice (it's always great to have goals), but don't forget to enjoy the journey, because, unlike life, in nursing the journey is never really over. There's always something new around the corner. And that's the beauty of it! No, nursing isn't for everyone, but I believe that nurses are 'called' to the profession, through many different ways. What triggers that 'call' can be as varied as the types of nursing out there. So many opportunities await you and I wish you the absolute best on your journey. It will never be dull, I guarantee you!
Oh....and Mom? Well....she's very proud of me. She's my biggest fan and supporter and she loves to tell people (even perfect strangers!) that her daughter is a Registered Nurse.