Published Dec 4, 2012
17 members have participated
wish_me_luck, BSN, RN
1,110 Posts
I am curious about something. I was honest and disclosed. As bad as things are for me, oddly enough, I don't hate or feel bad that I was honest and disclosed. I don't believe in lying to the Boards and on top of that, I shouldn't be ashamed of what put me in the monitoring program.
My mom, on the other hand, tells me (especially when things are really rough for me) that I shouldn't have disclosed.
What do you think?
mcat45
5 Posts
First morally we should be honest always; second, if you lie and the board finds out especially in writing you Perjury yourself on and on! and Third it is easier to tell the truth; too hard to remember lies! I tell the truth; that way, easy to tell what happened! Hard enough to recall one version-the truth-than to juggle the 7 lies that each lie carries! You did right; good luck!
MichelleRN34, ADN, RN
270 Posts
I believe honesty is the best policy always. I know the truth may be embarassing or hurtful sometimes, but it is always the best thing to do. The consequences of lying to the BON are way worse then if you would actually have told the truth.. and they seem to find out about the lies.
I thought I did the right thing and I am glad I did. But, when I am at my low, having my mom (who is also a nurse...with a license in the same state as me) telling me that I should have lied and I wouldn't be in this situation, it's hard to deal with.
Yes, I have BPD and I have a hx of alcohol abuse, but I think that that's what put me in it, not being honest. But, it hurts not having support when you are at one of your lowest. I mean, I don't know what will happen down the line. I am not talking in terms of being a danger to patients. I am saying that in the future, if I would ever need to go back into a psych facility (if I am not feeling that great or something), I don't want it to be a situation that I lied to the Board, then a physician tell them about it, and then get in more trouble because of lying. I have something that I will deal with for a long time, if not the rest of my life. I may do wonderful and not need any in patient anymore or I may have a mental breakdown and need it. I just wanted to be honest and have the approval with them knowing than to only have it with lying to them.
They were nice enough to grant the approval and I am grateful (to VA...TN, we're working on them), but I hate that my mom throws this "you shouldn't have disclosed. You have yourself to blame" stuff in my face.
I have always found it odd that everyone wants honesty, but not everyone is honest. Everyone wants acceptance, but not everyone is accepting. I want to try and change that. People shouldn't have to lie because of mental health issues.
Joaquin49, BSN, RN
17 Posts
Answer only what's being asked with totall honesty.