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OK so I haven't posted on here in a while, because I was on the cna reddit. I came back to have more opinions told to me about this particular situation.

OK so we have a new cna with is. She's nice good hard worker, but for some reason she doesn't like me

Example, just yesterday night a resident in her section wanted me to help her get dressed, because she was busy

Following night she threaten to report me for getting her resident up.

I mean I don't understand what I did. I was well on track.

Also a little while ago a resident was coughing I got up to check first and she followed. She went in there, and I stood there to see if she wanted my help and she gave me a nasty " what the **** you want" look.

I left the doorway after that and someone else was right behind me to help her out.

Is anyone else like this. Is it common. In my view I think it's because I'm the same age as her kids. Also in my view I don't care how old I am I've been HERE longer then you have and I can give you advice and aide if you would let me. I'm not trying to insult you..........calm down

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It certainly sounds like something petty is going on, but these things are rarely one-sided.

Have you considered approaching your coworker and attempting to find out what's going on? Going straight to the source is always more useful than guessing.

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It certainly sounds like something petty is going on, but these things are rarely one-sided.

Have you considered approaching your coworker and attempting to find out what's going on? Going straight to the source is always more useful than guessing.

she confronted me with the whole "dont help me resident or i will report you" and while id love to see whats going on i think it will cause more trouble then its worth

its best just to stay out of her way

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My opinion: Don't assume anything. Please don't reference her age when speaking about this to co-workers or her. That statement could come back to bite you when it comes to age discrimination. Inform her that you want to be helpful without stepping on her toes.

Here is why I say that. I have been a CNA for many years so this all comes from personal experience. When I was new I experienced the aides that were "I was HERE first", the entitled aides that believed their seniority meant something. Some aides never bothered to ask me why my way works for me, they were just "this is the way WE do it around here"

Don't assume she doesn't like you. It could be very possible that she viewed that resident being up as a risk, maybe she almost fell earlier. Maybe the aid is adjusting to a new schedule, lack of sleep, time management skills she is working on, etc. There could be a number of things. As humans we always assume the worst first.

I have worked with CNAs that would help me all the time and NEVER document. If you don't document then it didn't happen. So guess what ? I stopped those people from assisting me since I have to remind them to document, and then double check that they did.

I have also worked with a veteran when I was well into my career. I was assigned to work with her my last week of orientation and my 1st week on her unit.

She appeared upset when I was first introduced to her. She said " I don't have time for this S***!"... I laughed when she walked away and the nurse explained to me how that CNA would rather work alone and not with anyone new. I wasn't going to make my night harder. I walked right up to her and said " Ms.B, I understand you may not like working with new CNAs cause it can be time consuming. We all have our own way of doing things but I'm not here to slow you down. I've worked as a CNA long enough to be able to work anywhere as long as I know where clean supplies are located and where to put the dirty items when I'm done. So give me half of your assignment, I'll take the difficult patients if you want. You check behind me before lunch and at the last break. I won't let you down".......We worked w/o talking very much the entire night but 30 days later I was "Champion of Caring for the month". The director of nursing gave me my award. She also invited other nurses in her office to tell me that Ms.B had nominated me and it was her first time ever nominating anyone in her 40 years there. Call it a break through!

All in all STOP assuming any and everything that may contribute to the negative feelings you are feeling. We're taught how to communicate and it is your job not to ignore any situation that has the ability to escalate.

It is funny what we choose to assume. You didn't assume that she is homeless, stressed, hungry, disabled, misunderstanding you, been used by co-workers so she would rather do it herself, lowering her risk of falls by doing it in her way, I don't know, ANYTHING that doesn't make it personal for you. Another thing, we can't take things personal as the first option when our patients come before us.

After that long drawn out story.... Giving her your support (verbally), asking if you did something wrong or offensive, and shooting her a compliment could change the world or at least your work environment. Good Luck

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My opinion: Don't assume anything. Please don't reference her age when speaking about this to co-workers or her. That statement could come back to bite you when it comes to age discrimination. Inform her that you want to be helpful without stepping on her toes.

Here is why I say that. I have been a CNA for many years so this all comes from personal experience. When I was new I experienced the aides that were "I was HERE first", the entitled aides that believed their seniority meant something. Some aides never bothered to ask me why my way works for me, they were just "this is the way WE do it around here"

Don't assume she doesn't like you. It could be very possible that she viewed that resident being up as a risk, maybe she almost fell earlier. Maybe the aid is adjusting to a new schedule, lack of sleep, time management skills she is working on, etc. There could be a number of things. As humans we always assume the worst first.

I have worked with CNAs that would help me all the time and NEVER document. If you don't document then it didn't happen. So guess what ? I stopped those people from assisting me since I have to remind them to document, and then double check that they did.

I have also worked with a veteran when I was well into my career. I was assigned to work with her my last week of orientation and my 1st week on her unit.

She appeared upset when I was first introduced to her. She said " I don't have time for this S***!"... I laughed when she walked away and the nurse explained to me how that CNA would rather work alone and not with anyone new. I wasn't going to make my night harder. I walked right up to her and said " Ms.B, I understand you may not like working with new CNAs cause it can be time consuming. We all have our own way of doing things but I'm not here to slow you down. I've worked as a CNA long enough to be able to work anywhere as long as I know where clean supplies are located and where to put the dirty items when I'm done. So give me half of your assignment, I'll take the difficult patients if you want. You check behind me before lunch and at the last break. I won't let you down".......We worked w/o talking very much the entire night but 30 days later I was "Champion of Caring for the month". The director of nursing gave me my award. She also invited other nurses in her office to tell me that Ms.B had nominated me and it was her first time ever nominating anyone in her 40 years there. Call it a break through!

All in all STOP assuming any and everything that may contribute to the negative feelings you are feeling. We're taught how to communicate and it is your job not to ignore any situation that has the ability to escalate.

It is funny what we choose to assume. You didn't assume that she is homeless, stressed, hungry, disabled, misunderstanding you, been used by co-workers so she would rather do it herself, lowering her risk of falls by doing it in her way, I don't know, ANYTHING that doesn't make it personal for you. Another thing, we can't take things personal as the first option when our patients come before us.

After that long drawn out story.... Giving her your support (verbally), asking if you did something wrong or offensive, and shooting her a compliment could change the world or at least your work environment. Good Luck

This is amazing advice! I've been in nursing over 20 years& have trained many ppl. You are a preceptors dream! I can tell you are an awesome CNA!

OP, I think you should have a talk with the co-worker you're talking about. Talk to her first before you report her or anything like that. Best of luck, hang in there!

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I've experienced this as a young nurse and aide mostly with older women . It isn't even personal it's just sometimes they feel because of their age their more experienced . I agree with the other comment though bringing up the age difference or her age in general to coworkers or management will back fire but I believe kill her with kindness , ask her if she's having a bad day. Just like with patients , there sometimes is an underlying problem that most likely has nothing to do with you personally . Be patient and give her space . Hope everything works out .

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My opinion: Don't assume anything. Please don't reference her age when speaking about this to co-workers or her. That statement could come back to bite you when it comes to age discrimination. Inform her that you want to be helpful without stepping on her toes.

Here is why I say that. I have been a CNA for many years so this all comes from personal experience. When I was new I experienced the aides that were "I was HERE first", the entitled aides that believed their seniority meant something. Some aides never bothered to ask me why my way works for me, they were just "this is the way WE do it around here"

i was never like this though. i only said that, because i do know these particular resident better then her
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