Am I out ot my mind CRAZY???? When DH and I first got married, we decided to start trying for a family 2 years after we were married (our 2 yr. anniversary was this past March). Well, about a year after we were married, I decided to go into nursing and we thought it best to postpone the babymaking till I finished school (which makes VERY logical sense!); however, it's been increasingly difficult to accept the idea of waiting till I'm 30 to have our first baby. DH ....like every man...thinks he has super sperm and I will get preggers the very first month we try Anyway, I'm not so convinced!
When I was 17 I had surgery for dermoid tumors and they removed my right ovary and a 1/4 of my left ovary. My doctor says my remaining 3/4 of and ovary fx's normally and I'll be fine...but that doesn't stop the doubt in my mind! It took a friend of mine two years to conceive and another has been trying for over three year's now and is preparing to start fertility tx's. I just feel that I would prefer my strike-outs to happen while I'm in school and have something else to preoocupy my mind. I think I finally got throught to DH when I told him that having a family is more important to me than nursing and that I'd like to start trying to have a baby now. Don't get me wrong...Nursing is very important to me but I don't care if I finish my nursing program before or after the baby.
I'm not even sure if I'll be admitted into the nursing program at my school...there's 90 seats available and 250 some applicants! And you better believe I'm not waiting 3+ years (ADN program) to start having a baby!!!! Anyway, DH has finally realized that I'm very serious about having a baby at this point in my life and that if pregnant during school, I would not forget about nursing...only postpone it for a year....he has agreed that we can start trying to conceive when I feel I'm ready.
We are going on a cruise to the British Virgin Islands in January so I figured we would start right after the cruise! Now keep in mind that this is after 1st semester so even if I did get pregnant just out of the gate I'd still be able to finish my 1st year of nursing school, take off a year and then finish my 2nd year. Now, If it takes a year (like it does for most average people) I would be pregnant during my last semester and be able to grduate no problem (albeit pregnant!).
So...does this seem crazy? Any input is welcome....sorry this is so long!
I just wanted to thank you all for your input...I haven't fully decided one way or the other yet. I am still waying all my options and as I mentioned earlier, I have told DH that I will revisit the idea again in January. Thanks again!
I just wanted to thank you all for your input...I haven't fully decided one way or the other yet. I am still waying all my options and as I mentioned earlier, I have told DH that I will revisit the idea again in January. Thanks again!
Specializes in Gerontological, cardiac, med-surg, peds.
I personally don't think a PLANNED pregnancy during nursing school is a very good idea. I say this from personal experience--although I wasn't pregnant during my nursing school experience (THANK GOD!!!!), I was just about incapacitated during BOTH of my pregnancies from hyperemesis (the first one, for the entire 9 months, and the second one for "just" the first 5 months). I don't think there is anything on earth as bad as severe gut-wretching constant intractable nausea. Other women I know have had serious problems (besides hyperemesis) with their pregnancies--threatened miscarriages and mandatory bedrest for several months, for instance. You can't predict ahead of time if your pregnancy will be uneventful. I was VERY healthy before conceiving and becoming so sick for the entire nine months was QUITE A SHOCK!!!
Nursing school is SO incredibly stressful, you really don't need the added stress of a pregnancy and then a newborn. Besides the stress of pregnancy, you really don't know what type of baby you will have--one who will sleep all night or one who has colic and keeps you up walking the floors day and night for 4 months. Colicky babies can sense mom's stress and get much, much worse. No, I don't think planning to have a baby during nursing school is a wise thing to do at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Specializes in Gerontological, cardiac, med-surg, peds.
I personally don't think a PLANNED pregnancy during nursing school is a very good idea. I say this from personal experience--although I wasn't pregnant during my nursing school experience (THANK GOD!!!!), I was just about incapacitated during BOTH of my pregnancies from hyperemesis (the first one, for the entire 9 months, and the second one for "just" the first 5 months). I don't think there is anything on earth as bad as severe gut-wretching constant intractable nausea. Other women I know have had serious problems (besides hyperemesis) with their pregnancies--threatened miscarriages and mandatory bedrest for several months, for instance. You can't predict ahead of time if your pregnancy will be uneventful. I was VERY healthy before conceiving and becoming so sick for the entire nine months was QUITE A SHOCK!!!
Nursing school is SO incredibly stressful, you really don't need the added stress of a pregnancy and then a newborn. Besides the stress of pregnancy, you really don't know what type of baby you will have--one who will sleep all night or one who has colic and keeps you up walking the floors day and night for 4 months. Colicky babies can sense mom's stress and get much, much worse. No, I don't think planning to have a baby during nursing school is a wise thing to do at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am new here (a student myself in a bsn program - 2 years to go) and haven't really posted anything yet, but I do have a little something to say about having children while you are in school. I myself actually have three children and my last one was born while I was in school. The best way to manage school and children is to have much understanding and communication between your husband and yourself. If he is supportive of both of your goals and can fill in when you are in class, studying etc. than it will work out just fine!!!
I am new here (a student myself in a bsn program - 2 years to go) and haven't really posted anything yet, but I do have a little something to say about having children while you are in school. I myself actually have three children and my last one was born while I was in school. The best way to manage school and children is to have much understanding and communication between your husband and yourself. If he is supportive of both of your goals and can fill in when you are in class, studying etc. than it will work out just fine!!!
Anyway, I'm not so convinced! 
Now keep in mind that this is after 1st semester so even if I did get pregnant just out of the gate I'd still be able to finish my 1st year of nursing school, take off a year and then finish my 2nd year. Now, If it takes a year (like it does for most average people) I would be pregnant during my last semester and be able to grduate no problem (albeit pregnant!). 
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I just wanted to thank you all for your input...I haven't fully decided one way or the other yet. I am still waying all my options and as I mentioned earlier, I have told DH that I will revisit the idea again in January. Thanks again!
~Bean