In the words of Tom Jones “I’ve lost that loving feeling, whoa that loving feeling

[middleagedRN]

I have been a nurse for 10 years, always in LTC, I feel like it what I was meant to do. I have been at current facility for 7 years. I thought I found the golden ticket when I found this job. Staffing is wonderful, beautiful facility, our voices were heard, wonderful pay and benefits. I thought I hit it big time! Fast forward to six years later under new management… And it sucks! Our voices are no longer heard, the nurse aides do whatever the hell they want with no repercussions. They will get up in their nurses face and tell them how it’s going to be, the nurse writes them up, and nothing ever becomes if it. Director of nursing is a spineless jellyfish, ADON is a backstabbing witch. I try to make the nurse aids do their jobs and they don’t do it because they know nothing is going to happen to them anyways. I have developed two autoimmune disorders and an ulcer, and it’s all related to stress. I know it’s time to go but I’m 56 years old and don’t know which way to go if I left. I just want my residents taken care of appropriately with compassion and dignity. If that too much to ask? My heart hurts because I have to leave this job, where I once thought I had found my forever home.

[CloverPark, RN]

On 4/26/2020 at 11:44 PM, middleagedRN said:

Our voices are no longer heard, the nurse aides do whatever the hell they want with no repercussions. They will get up in their nurses face and tell them how it’s going to be, the nurse writes them up, and nothing ever becomes if it. Director of nursing is a spineless jellyfish, ADON is a backstabbing witch. I try to make the nurse aids do their jobs and they don’t do it because they know nothing is going to happen to them anyways.

I think we work at the same facility! ?

In all seriousness though, I totally relate to how you are feeling, because I am dealing with these same issues... Unfortunately, I can't even offer any good advice. I have been working as a subacute nurse and/or supervisor in the nursing home setting for almost 7 years now, and I just can't take it anymore. There have been times when I was hopeful that maybe I could help make some positive changes, and I did make some... But there are just too many problems, too many issues, and too much drama in these facilities, and hence, it is just TOO FAR GONE! I have recently started my RN to BSN online and plan to start working in a hospital soon. It will be sad leaving a place that once felt like home, but we have to take care of ourselves, because no one else will!! Walking away might be the best and only thing we can do to preserve whatever's left of our health and our sanity!

[Daisy4RN]

All I can say is I have lost that lovin feelin too! I have had two different jobs like you describe. Without management backup there is nothing you can do, and then they turn around and blame you when something happens. I left both jobs for the very same reason. I also developed autoimmune illness somewhere along the way. I am sorry you find yourself in this situation and hope you can find a solution either way!