I don't want to be a nurse!!

lemur00, BSN, RN · Jan 12, 2016

with those interests, I'd become an actuary. And show your parents how much an actuary makes to assuage their fears. This is considered one of the best fields to get into in the current market.

NurseMegP, BSN, RN · May 24, 2016

Where are you at that biomed engineering won't get you a job? Get into a good engineering school and be willing to move to find a job and you will do well. I wish I had stuck with engineering every single day. Don't go into nursing if you don't want to be miserable for the rest of your life. And accounting? You can find a job with it too. Whatever you go into, if you're willing to possibly relocate, you can find a job with no problem.

bgxyrnf, MSN, RN · May 24, 2016

I wish I had stuck with engineering every single day. Don't go into nursing...

Counterpoint: Every single day I'm glad that I left my engineering career behind. I only wish that I'd done so 20 years earlier.

sharebear003 · May 25, 2016

Thanks everyone for your advice. I really appreciate it. I'm going to nursing school this fall and I'm gonna see how I like it.. possibly take some comp sci and accounting classes as electives (if possible).

JoannieO · Dec 16, 2016

My mom wanted me to be a nurse in 1968. Back the, the options were limited. I excelled in mathematics and wanted to teach math at the university level but was told I was a woman, so my options were a nurse, teacher or secretary ! So, my parents paid for my 3 year nursing RN diploma, later my BSN, and I did a work-study for my Masters in Information Systems Science. At first I did not not like the hospital ! After 6 months, I made nursing friends (whom I am still friendly with today) + later bbecame an excellent nurse, still going 45 years later. The degrees carried my family through many financial times. My husband worked in IT with a few layoffs, but nursing has benefits so it carried us through. My final job is in occupational health and is my favorite. I hope this helps and Godspeed on your journey.

mokoush · Dec 16, 2016

Hi,

sorry what ur going through, i have been in ur situation before. My dad told me if i wasnt going into law he wouldnt support me anymore. Then I said "its my life and my choices" and now... im a first year nursing student and he still supports me... its ok to think about urself first

Nita Faye · Dec 16, 2016

You usually have a full year of college before starting your Nursing specific courses. Use this year to take the non-specific nursing courses. That will give you a full year to get a better idea of what you want, become more independent and show maturity.

Nursing may not be for you but then again, once you see how broad the field is, you may love it.

Take your time.

floridanurse1983 · Dec 16, 2016

Good god. You're an adult. Do what you want to do. Nursing is hard, even when you want it badly. If I didn't want to be a nurse and I did my job, I'd hate life and want to die lol.

sarose611 · Dec 16, 2016

Your parents are trying to.ensure you will have a . Marketable job after graduation. That is very sweet and parent-ish behaviour. If you are positive you don't want to be a nurse, then don't. I susp e ct they are "forcing" you be not paying for any other major. So py for your own. At age 18, you are legally a . Big girl and can't be forced to.d o.anything. if you hav any glimmer t hat you might like some aspect of nursing, I would suggest you take your 1st 2 years of core course (English, history, math, P.E. etc.) And work or volunteer in some ares wh we re you can learn.more about nursing, what options are available, etc.Then you can make an informed choice, your parents may have changed their minds, or you may have changed yours.

rhkenji · Dec 16, 2016

Don't do it! Listen to these nurses. We wanted to be what we are but we still get burnt out by the profession. More for you that doesn't want to be one. Do yourself and future patients a favor and don't do it

purplemommyRN · Dec 16, 2016

You can show your parents job listings for the career your want (search Indeed.com), and explain that many hospitals hire within.
For example, accountant listings in New York, NY have 2,200 job listings. There are 2,900 listings for a registered nurse for the same location. That's not a huge difference.
And biomedical engineering is one of the "in" careers now. Just google "bio-medical engineering on the rise" or something to show your parents articles about it. You can even look at college sites you possibly will be attending for the career info and statistics, some have "what can you do with this degree" info.

This is excellent advise! As a mom of teens and a nurse of 20 years I implore you to not be a nurse if you don't love it. I love being a nurse. It's who I am. I love taking care of people, using my brain, solving mysteries (ahhhh.. so you say your mom used to take lactulose and drinks a bottle of wine every day but you forgot to tell us for the last 3 days. I can't imagine why mom is almost unresponsive while still managing to rip out IV's. Oh doctor... We need lactulose, heme onc and some CIWA orders). But nurses who shouldn't be nurses never take good care of patients. They don't have the intuition, compassion and drive to do everything that needs to be done. There are other equally important professions that require passion and still allow you to be financially stable.

Nursing requires you to give so much of yourself and I've seen people hate their lives when they didn't love our profession. Some get lucky and find other medical avenues where they succeed such as research but not all do. Nursing requires you to laugh through poop, blood, bad days and absolutely crazy days. We skip meals, don't go to the bathroom all in the name of helping our patients. We count on our coworkers to keep us sane when we spend all day holding a mom while her child dies. Nursing isn't a job. It's most certainly is not a job like others. Patients suffer if you don't a least like your job most of the time. Coworkers suffer if you make everyone miserable then their patients suffer and so on. Nurses lean on each other and as much as I love teaching new nurses I do not want to work with anyone who doesn't enjoy their job.

As a mom I want my kids to be financially stable but also happy and successful. As a parent you try to guide your children and even when your out of the house parents still love you and worry. Of course your parents want you to have a secure future! They love you. Perhaps they need more insight into the fields you do love. And I'm sure they need to hear that you have a realistic understanding of the jobs available to you. Do your research. Remember you don't have to declare a major right away and biomedical engineering will require the same first year of college. At college join a club, seek out a research project to assist with. Show your parents you aren't picking a job with no future. Show them you can support yourself.

Good luck!!

GaleSRN, BSN, RN · Dec 17, 2016

Please don't waste your time and the expense of college on a career you obviously do not have a passion for. Something in the first year or two of college will grab your interest and that will be where you should go. I had a passion for medicine, so it was a no brainer for me. My husband started as an architect major and ended up being a data base architect instead. Find your passion, and as long as you can make it into a marketable skill, go for it.