I have to choose between being a nurse or mother!

[luvmykids0810]

I was diagnosed with pcos in feb. 2011, moved here to texas. And was diagnosed with high bp, pcos, diabetes type 1, and just found out i may have fibroids also(family history of it) in september 2012. My OB told me that if either my cysts dont dissapear(sp) or i get pregnant in 3 months, that theres a strong possibility i will need a hysterectomy!

ISSUES: I have a WONDERFUL job that is paying for me to go to nursing school. I wasnt planning on having another one til 2016-2017! Once i was done with the program and became an RN. AND I wasnt planning on having another one because even though I love him to death... Dh hasnt grown up yet. He's not a bad man at all, hes a wonderful father to one of my kids thats not even his(i have two girls 4 and 2). But to have another child right now would slow me down in school even though I'd be still doing my pre-reqs during and after baby. But to get pregnant right now would cause me to work less, and have to take a semester off for baby, and dh would have to work more hours. Which will be an issue because i make more than him(not nor ever rubbing it in his face) but its the truth. And idk what to do! To have someone tell you at the age of 24.5(lol) that i have to either have a baby now or not at all is scary and i havent done anything but cry since the news. I would LOVE to get pregnant right now(it would be dh and my second child with each other, and both our last child addition to our family) and not have to worry about having another one once i start my career.

But i have to make a choice NOW, because once AF shows this weekend i have to start clomid and 21 day progestrone tests. OB gave me til after my 25th bday(december) for either a BFP or hysterectomy! Every woman on my side of the family had to have one and some were heartbroken some were happy. But i know i will be heartbroken. *sigh* im banging my head right now because im confused.

[vintagemother, BSN, CNA, LVN, RN]

Go to nursing school. Two children are enough. Really. You might not think so now, but they are more demanding, more financial burden, and require more supervision to stay on the right track as they get older and peer pressure starts ...al.

As mom to 3 going thru a divorce, can I double like this comment!!!! if its meant to be, you will have chance to have more kids later. Don't stop your education to have kids with a man you already make more money than. When I was your age(8 years ago) I wouldn't have taken my own advice, but I plead with you to consider what those of us who have BTDT are saying!!

[RubySlippers06]

As mom to 3 going thru a divorce, can I double like this comment!!!! if its meant to be, you will have chance to have more kids later. Don't stop your education to have kids with a man you already make more money than. When I was your age(8 years ago) I wouldn't have taken my own advice, but I plead with you to consider what those of us who have BTDT are saying!!

I'm with these people. I'm so sorry that you are going through this and having to deal with it. I come from a large family and we (the kids) never had new clothes, couldn't do extra curricular activities, and were lucky if we got to split Chinese takeout. My parents made good money; but, because there were so many of use, basic living expenses came first.

I am now the same age as you (I turn 25 in jan) and my husband and I have two kids. He got neutered because we decided we wanted to make sure we could always take care of the kids we have. Do I want more kids? I would love to have more! Do I need more kids? No, I satisfied with the two we have and I want to make sure they can participate in activities. Had my husband and I been more responsible and went to college, got married, then have kids instead of the exact opposite, we would probably of had more kids. However, we want to make sure we can always afford our family. He is in the military and I am in nursing school. Who knows, maybe 10 years from now we will adopt.

Anyways, I think you should get a second opinion and don't have a baby just because this is your "last chance" to ever have another one. You can always adopt a baby once your career is stabilized.

[Katie828]

Why do you need a hystrectomy? Are you in pain?

I say do NS and then adopt later....there are soooo many children who need good homes.

~K

[Nursing2102]

Do you really want/need a third child? You've said your dh hasn't grown up yet.....?

You can go to nursing school to become a nurse and support your two daughters very nicely on a nurses salary.

If it were me, I'd go to nursing school. You're choice in the end.