First thing - I'm sorry, but english isn't my native language.
I have big moral problem. I work as a male nurse for short time. Not in psychiatric. As a student I had short practic learning in psychiatric hospital. When one of the patiets were going out, asked me for my phone number, because we were good friendds at talk. Because I was shocked, and my habit was that my phone number isn't private thing, I don't know why - I gave it to her. I was just a student and couldn't think about cnsequences in this moment.
We even had one or two meets, and one or two when she was back on the ward. It was nice, calm meets. And our contact has stopped. I was even thinking, that this could be a mistake, to give my phone number and wondering if it will end like this. Good idea, thought.
But she remembered. She asked me to come, okay, I went thinking about next calm and easy meet. I came as a friend. It was nice, but she said to me, that she's attracted with me. Didn't know what to do, tried few asks, to be sure, that she's serious and it is not some symptom. And she was sure. She wasn't "mental hot for anyone in pants", nothing from these. And I don't know what to do. I like her, think that she's attractive, but not this is worrying me.
Is it good in moral sense for a nurse? I'm not from psychiatry, she never will be my patient. She said, that she would feel safe knowing, that by her side is a person, who is in it "from medical side". but I'll ask again: is it moral for a nurse? As a person I don't have any doubts, but I do have huge dilemma as a nurse.
Our relationship went from therapeutic (if we can name it like this for me as a student then) to private, but just friendly. I know, my bad, but what is done, that is done. I didn't know what was I doing and never spoke about that sort of things with any proffessional. But heard few stories about things like this from my nurse friends before I went on studies. Some of them ended good, some not. I don't know what to do.
Sorry, but "English isn't my first language" is not an excuse I buy here.
Yes, it is an excuse. But not for the situation, but for sentence construcion. I have warned you, that I don't use English well and there can be language errors.
Anyways, what is done, that is done. And how I have to explain all this to her.
I came here for help and I received help. Thank you, good people.
Fiona59
8,343 Posts
I Think the OP mentioned English to cover the sound of his post.
I don't think they even live in North America from the way the issue had been described