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What is the appropriate response when family blames you for the patient dying, even if you did nothing wrong and death insists on taking its course? We have had so many Covid situations lately where patients are DNR/DNI but are in respiratory distress and family refuses comfort or hospice. Such a slow and awful death. The other day a spouse was fixated on the fact that we had not been feeding her husband ( Sp02 70-88%, lethargic, ALOC) and insisted I take off the non rebreather to give him his PO meds and feed him to "save his life". She continued to scream at me ( over the phone) that I was killing him. It feels so unfair to watch a patient slowly suffer and die without relief due to patients own specific parameters and then get blamed for it.