How do you get time to plan your wedding? I am stressing out!

nursam1 · May 17, 2015

Your post made me laugh!! LOL. I just went through the whole thing myself. I started planning when I just finished my study and went through all my painful interviews....... Tough!!! Cried many times.

I was not able to find my dress for two months and got rejected by one job. Where are you based?

T-Bird78 · May 23, 2015

Breathe. People won't care (or remember) if the napkins were sky blue and the bridesmaid's dresses were navy blue. The wedding is a single day that begins your journey into marriage--and THAT is what the focus should be on. Anyway, I ordered my wedding dress online for $99 through RomanticGowns.com and it fit perfectly (well, I had to get 3" cut off the length because it only comes in one length, for brides 66" tall). If it's in your budget, hire a wedding planner or coordinator. If it's not, then keep things simple. I made my own bridesmaid's bouquets (local craft store had small bunches of flowers held together, I bought the same but in two different colors, pulled them apart, combined both colors, and rebundled them) and had my sister's friend make my bouquet. As far as finding time, how far in advance do you know your schedule? My husband printed a wedding planning guide he found online and it breaks down the timeline for getting different things done. Write those timelines down and when you get your schedule, devote a set time to wedding planning. Don't leave your mom, sister, fiance, or future MIL out of the plans, either. They can be a great asset and it never helps having a second (or 3rd or 4th!) set of eyes and ears. Plan an early afternoon wedding so the reception can be appetizers/buffet or even just cake and punch, so you don't have to worry about a caterer or formal servers. Use social media--surely you've got a friend, or friend of a friend, who is a photographer or DJ or used a great facility for their wedding. Just make sure to focus on what the big day is all about--and BREATHE!!! Good luck!

ttlovingnurse · May 26, 2015

Thank you SO much for your experience sharing! I was super nervous because too many people were involved and gave me too much information and ideas. You know people have different taste, which made me nervous and forgot what I wanted and the first place. I finally got my dress from Jinza Bridal in LA and had them customized my dress to my body and added sleeves that I wanted. I have been to 8 shops and my mum and sisters have different opinions on the dresses which made a nightmare of mine. And got my venue! Now I feel that I can be relaxing a bit. I downloaded my schedule online too, thanks for this tip. I like planning my day myself, not a big fan of hiring someone to do it for me. ^_^

Thanks again!!!

Mavrick, BSN, RN · May 27, 2015

Focus on the marriage. If it falls apart the wedding becomes just one day of meaningless overindulgence.

And that's the joke on everyone.

Treasure30 · Jun 22, 2015

Baby you going to be alright. Take a few deep breath,...plan and organize. Don't turn into "Brizilla". Now the marriage is when you gonna need help. It's your wedding, if it's important, you gotta get some rest and go pick that dress, :). Remember Breath. Your gonna be a beautiful bride.

CocoaLoverFNP · Jul 3, 2015

A nurse on call.................................
My wedding is coming soon early next year. I recently got too stressed on planning the whole thing. I don't even have my dress yet....... I have to reschedule my dress fitting appointments twice due to my schedule.....
Any suggestions on this whole planning thing? Of course, I want a perfect wedding and a perfect dress! But the whole process is very time consuming. And I am not decisive at all! HELP!

Hey, this is typical! I remember those days when I was stressing out about my own wedding. My husband is not into wedding planning so I planned it all (I am glad that I was in charge though hehe). I was in NP school at the time and I was also an Advanced Clinician (basically working on process improvement projects) so I was in a LOT of stress as well.

My advice is to distribute the work. Have your maid of honor and bridesmaids do the things that may not necessarily need your constant attention (bridesmaid dresses, accessories, etc.). Make a timeline for things.. My maid of honor gave me a wedding planner/organizer and it was very useful.

Lastly, just have fun planning your wedding. Remember that you are marrying the love of your life and thatms the most important part. Good luck!