Letting go has never been easy...

  1. Letting go has never been easy, but holding on can be as difficult. Yet strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go. - Len Santos

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    Last edit by Joe V on Jun 17, '18
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  3. by   NutmeggeRN
    Ahhh reminds of when my da was on the downward slide after his strokes.....He stroked in Sept and had a bleed in November. at Christmas it really looked like it might be the end...I live 4 hours away and my siblings wanted to know if he went bad, did I want to prolong things for him till I was able to get there

    Being the oldest and the furthest away, they felt like it needed (with my dad) to be my decision....Gulp! I said no.

    Turned out he lived until the fall.....and I traveled out of the country and within.

    The day he died, the SNF transferred him to the hospital (for an unrelated event) and I was able to make it there in record time The state police may still be looking for me on I 95 in CT!!

    Anyway, while in the ER the option of a CT was offered. My dad shook his head no, one sib and I agreed, the other was not so sure but then changed her mind. My biggest fear then was he would die alone in the CT scanner.

    No, it was not the time for more testing, it was the time to say goodbye.

    And we did.
  4. by   Lovecnmnp
    Wow, what a special moment. Thank you for sharing. That was both a difficult and courageous act. Saying goodbye to someone you love is never easy.