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I am so frustrated, depressed, and confused as to what to do with myself.I have always wanted to be a nurse since I was little. I started an lpn program in 2003 while working full-time as a single parent. I got all the way to the end and failed my last class. That really devastated me and I just didn't go back. I was kicking myself for not be able to quit the job I had at the time but I had a mortgage.

So, several of my friends have went on to finish the lpn program and some have went to complete the lpn to rn program. Well, I have been taking classes in preparation for the rn program but my situation is very different. I am married and have had another child. I work part-time and totally dependent on my husband for support. We don't get along and have very little in common, he doesnt respect me, he doesnt do anything with me or the kids and I am just sick of it. He does what he wants and never gives me a break from the kids.

Well, besides the obvious I really want to go back to the lpn program because it is only a year long and I can work while trying to obtain my rn degree or I can wait until my youngest is a little older before returning for my rn. My question is should I forget school and just get a job and get out or should I go on to lpn school, save some money and get out when I am financially in a better situation for me and my kids? I don't want to be using my husband or staying in a relationship for convenience, but I have to be able to support my kids. Please give your honest advices because I have prayed for guidance because I don't want to make the wrong decisions.:crying2::crying2::crying2:

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Your story sounds so similiar to mines except i am not married. I have been in a horrible relationship with my sons father since i was 16 and i thought i would never be able to get away especialy after i had my son who is now turning 4. i originally started in a rn program but due to life problems i had to stop. he had totally stressed me with cheating and everything under the sun, but i could not leave because he took care of me. finally last year in march i payed $8,000.00 to do a lpn program in dc. it wasnt easy i had to commute back and fourth, be a mom, and put up with him. But i finally made it i graduated in march and just found out i passed the nclex on friday. I have not even told him i passed but i guess he will find out when i am gone!!! I dont have a dollar to my name right now that he dosent own but just knowing i made it is enough. I wish you the best of luck and can only tell you to just put up with it until it gets better. A lpn course might be a great starting point. I am planning on enrolling in a lpn to rn brigde program this fall. i wish you the best of luck.

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Specializes in Dialysis.

I am a single mom of 2 ages 3 and 5. When I first started the LPN program in the begining of Jan. of 04 I only had one child. I decided to go back in jan. of 07. The whole time my childrens father was horrible. He cheated and had another child, told me HE wasn't ready for me to go back to school. I had to work full time and take care of 4 people. I saying this to say go and do it at the end it will be well worth it. I graduated in june of 08 and am waiting to take my boards. Do the LPN program now and when u look back you will cry cause you'll be happy with what you've accomplished. Then work as a LPN and go to school part time for ur RN. Do it now u won't regret it.

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In my 20 as an LPN, I have worked with alot of young women in exactly the situation you've described. Trying to cope with a bad relationship, school, kids, and work schedules had left most of them at their wits end. Some considered putting their classes on the back burner until they were more financially stable, but most decided to stick it out in school. The general concensus among the women I've worked with was that even though their situation was temporarily unacceptable, it wouldn't be long before they would be able to move on...and move on their own terms. Good Luck to you on whatever you decide to do.

Best Wishes,

Auntie

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Thank you for all the advice and kind wishes. I am just at my wits end. Last night we got into it and he literally told me that he is not happy and I am not happy so I need to do something different but stop using him for convenience.

I was shocked by his comment, but not surprised! Oh I wish I was getting an lpn certificate in my hand today. I do think that after reading the comments it would be in my best interest to try to stick it out and get into the next lpn program if that is possible. He already told me he wouldn't give me a dime in child support and that he would rather keep the kids himself then pay support. He doesn't keep the kids now, so I don't see how would he be able to manage. I would never leave my kids anyway so it was kind of a waste of time for him to say that I think he knows that.

Oh I just pray that something works out for me and my kids. I just want to have peace of mind and to be free of this drama. It does give me comfort to know that others are out there going thru the same thing and are able to continue with their studies. That really gives me hope!

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I am a single mom of 2 ages 3 and 5. When I first started the LPN program in the begining of Jan. of 04 I only had one child. I decided to go back in jan. of 07. The whole time my childrens father was horrible. He cheated and had another child, told me HE wasn't ready for me to go back to school. I had to work full time and take care of 4 people. I saying this to say go and do it at the end it will be well worth it. I graduated in june of 08 and am waiting to take my boards. Do the LPN program now and when u look back you will cry cause you'll be happy with what you've accomplished. Then work as a LPN and go to school part time for ur RN. Do it now u won't regret it.

That is awful!!! My husband cheated on me too. I know that going thru nursing school will not only give me the opportunity to help other people in my community but it will give the opportunity to be financially independent again. I so desperately want. Congrats to you for finishing lpn school. Please let us know when you pass boards:yeah::yeah:

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Your story sounds so similiar to mines except i am not married. I have been in a horrible relationship with my sons father since i was 16 and i thought i would never be able to get away especialy after i had my son who is now turning 4. i originally started in a rn program but due to life problems i had to stop. he had totally stressed me with cheating and everything under the sun, but i could not leave because he took care of me. finally last year in march i payed $8,000.00 to do a lpn program in dc. it wasnt easy i had to commute back and fourth, be a mom, and put up with him. But i finally made it i graduated in march and just found out i passed the nclex on friday. I have not even told him i passed but i guess he will find out when i am gone!!! I dont have a dollar to my name right now that he dosent own but just knowing i made it is enough. I wish you the best of luck and can only tell you to just put up with it until it gets better. A lpn course might be a great starting point. I am planning on enrolling in a lpn to rn brigde program this fall. i wish you the best of luck.

Thanks for the advice and sharing your personal dilemma as well, makes me feel better to know it is possible to go thru nursing school while dealing with an ***hole.

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Thank you for all the advice and kind wishes. I am just at my wits end. Last night we got into it and he literally told me that he is not happy and I am not happy so I need to do something different but stop using him for convenience.

I was shocked by his comment, but not surprised! Oh I wish I was getting an lpn certificate in my hand today. I do think that after reading the comments it would be in my best interest to try to stick it out and get into the next lpn program if that is possible. He already told me he wouldn't give me a dime in child support and that he would rather keep the kids himself then pay support. He doesn't keep the kids now, so I don't see how would he be able to manage. I would never leave my kids anyway so it was kind of a waste of time for him to say that I think he knows that.

Oh I just pray that something works out for me and my kids. I just want to have peace of mind and to be free of this drama. It does give me comfort to know that others are out there going thru the same thing and are able to continue with their studies. That really gives me hope!

Please believe that for right now it will be CHEAPER to keep YOU then to leave you. He knows if he leaves not only will he pay CHILD support be he will also pay aliMONEY. LOL SO let him go cause thats money to take care of you while you go to school. I wish you the best and hope that you do become a nurse. Even if you become a CNA first then a LPN then a RN. Please just go for it my fingers are crossed and I WANT you to do it so bad just so you can through it in his face and tell him haha I made it without you and I'ma do better

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