I have a patient with A-fib, venous insufficiency, MASSIVE venous ulcers on her legs, and rotting fingers. I make twice-weekly visits to change UNNAs boots. She is supposed to elevate her legs, wear oxygen at night, wear her unnas boots. When I go for my visit, she has taken off her unnas boots, she hasnt worn her oxygen and she REFUSES to elevate her legs, stating that elevation makes them hurt. She wont go to her MD appts, she complains all the time. Now her fingers are literally ROTTING off her hand. They are black! Her body is oxygen depleted all the time. I have done teaching over and over and over, explaining the importance of wearing her oxygen and being compliant. She hates the unnas boots, which Im sure I would too, but I keep telling her that her legs will end up infected or amputated if she continues to be noncompliant. Im tired of arguing with her, Im tired of "wasting my time" by doing all this wound care and teaching and blood draws, etc. I love all my patients and want to help them all, but she is unwilling to do anything to help herself. I want to just stop going because the visit exhausts me, but I wouldnt be able to live with myself. Ive talked with the doc, he feels the same way I do, but what do we do? I document carefully. I walked in her house Thursday and she was asleep in her recliner, legs not elevated, no oxygen on, her O2 sat LOW. I woke her up and showed her what her O2 level was, she didnt care. What would you do? Her response was "I can only do what I can do". Well she isnt doing ANYTHING! Please give me advice....