Hiding meds in food: illegal?

[gilmet]

I'm new here so I hope I am posting in the right place. My adult son who had a brain tumor removed over 10 years ago is currently physically and mentaly disabled. He lived at home with me for 8 years, but considering my age and diminishing health, I could no longer take care of him. I live in a somewhat isolated area, and their are no places for some one like him. He is not elderly, but I was finally able to get him into a nursing home close by. I became his guardian because the damgae to his brain from having the tumor removed, some what mimics alzheimers, he is very stubborn and he does not have the cognitive functioning that is required to make a logical decison. Being his guardian I reguested that they hide his medication in his food. Unfortunately the head nurse on that wing refuses to do that. She claims it is deceitful and illegal. Because their is a danger of blodclots, he is supposed to take coumadin. Now his feet are all swelled up and I fear he may get a bloodclot and die. But still the nurse refuses to put the coumadin in his food. Other then that it is a good nursing home, and their are no other nursing homes in the area. They are telling me that I am requesting they do somthing illegal. Well I feel refusing to do what I requested (for his survival) is illegal. I fear if I get to persistent they will find a way to transferr him out of there. I don't know what to do?

[madwife2002, BSN, RN]

Gilmet this is a professional nursing website for nurses, student nurses. It is not for patients and their relatives to post on. We decided as a moderating team to let this thread run as it contained some interesting information and was a good topic. May I respectfully suggest you seek advice and help by contacting a medical advisor or your family GP