Help I am loosing my mind

nsmith_rn · Nov 10, 2001

only five more shifts on hell unit

I don't know if I would have my sanity if not for all of you

it has given me a chance to vent and not be "that *****y nurse"

:)

micro, RN · Nov 10, 2001

N Smith, congrats and enjoy your last few days. Yes, you are right. The grass may not be emerald greener, but just making a change is a plus. In nursing this also does not seem to be a negative and almost a smart move anymore!!!!!!!!!

To CareerRN, Betts. and all others(sorry after forty, memory goes),

What Write Stuff writes is Wright on!!!!!!!!!

It is unfortunate that nursing has become like this, that we are all feeling the problems internally so universally.

I guess it makes me feel better that it is not just me, but it is a sad state of affairs.

More later, as I am bushed after a productive, rewarding, but very TIRING day of nursing!!!!!!

micro:p

psnurse · Nov 10, 2001

There are ways to deal with situations like these. I applied for a charge position. Now I am the evil one. Well only if you are the evil one first.

When approached by others who wish to complain about someone, I listen. Then I decide if it is a valid complaint that needs to be addessed. A lot of the time, it doesn't seem to possess the qualities that I would consider, job related. Then I look to the complaining person and say, "Is this really an issue? Did you really have enough time to evaluate the work of someone else? Then obviously you haven't got enough to do. You can admit this person from _________ "(fill in the blank).

My other favorite questions.... "This is affecting you how?" "Isn't that your call light?"

Favorite comment... "Don't come to me later and tell me you didn't have time to take a lunch."

This does not mean that I don't address actual issues as they arise. But the backbiting has to stop somewhere. The buck might as well be me. So far, I have received 100% back up from management or this wouldn't be possible. The atmosphere of teamwork does seem to be improving.

nsmith_rn · Nov 12, 2001

psnurse

that is the crazy thing is that this was not my supervisor. When I reported the behavior ( yelling at me, making personal comments about my body, clothing and personal life which she knows nothing of and also inferring that I was substance abusing on the job) My supervisor told me that those where strong allegations and that they needed to be investigated.

Then she proceded to tell me about how upset she was becasue her boss found out before her.

That was when I knew that she was not intrested in me but rather in herself.

Well I start the new job next week...... and it will be something that I can padd the old resume with.. I am looking forward to it...

As for the back stabbing on my way out the door when i applied for my new job I told them the reason that I was leaving was becasue I wanted a job closer to home and the resume and letters of refrence where enough for them. They gave me the salary and shift that I wanted......

I have finished all the pre- employment screening and they wanted me to start this coming week

:)

psnurse · Nov 12, 2001

Congrats on the new job. I hope things are better for you there.

Unfortunately, there are many managers that just perpetuate the problem of backstabbing. They want a cohesive team, but they don't want to call anyone on their behavior. But the upside is there doesn't seem to be any shortage of jobs. Sometimes you have to be as flexible as a spaghetti noodle to find one that works for you.

For me, I wasn't the subject of such disdain as you described. But others were and for some reason I was the chosen one to listen. I thought I could make a difference by stopping some of it, so I needed the authority to say what was on my mind. Hence, the charge position. It has had some positive effects. At least on the days that I work. I can't fix my days off.

Changing jobs wasn't the best option for me because I live in a rural area and a new job would mean a horrendous drive. Especially in the winter.

My methods are simple. Personal attacks will not be validated. This allegation of drug abuse that you were subjected to would have been met with this statement, "I hope you have some hard proof to back that up. Otherwise, you could be held civilly liable for slander or liable, whichever is the spoken form of character assination."

I just can't jump on the let's talk about her today wagon. It drives me crazy!

nsmith_rn · Dec 4, 2001

NEw job is going well..... life is good..... not any toxic co-workers noted at this time... will continue to moniter.... hehehe