Hey everyone,
I am a new grad who started in the ICU in February. I have been off orientation for about two weeks, and it's been tough. I felt relatively confident in the weeks leading up to coming off orientation (and my managers gave me great feedback) but I feel different being on my own. I feel worried that I will hurt my patients, so I double-check and ask the more experienced nurses about everything (even things that they probably think I should already know, like how to mix Levophed or for tips on how to unclog an NG tube). I worry that this makes me looks less competent, but obviously I want to be safe so I keep asking.
My real problem, though, is that when I do make mistakes (and obviously I have been making them), it's hard to deal with some people. Now, to be clear, the nurses on my unit are actually the best. I love them and they have been incredibly supportive. But, as an example, the other day a mid-level practitioner got angry at me in front of two other people for not following an order-set, telling me that I needed to be professional enough to ask questions if I didn't know something. I apologized, even though I was really confused because I had just checked the order-set minutes before and was pretty certain that I had done it correctly. After she went away, I re-checked the order-set and I HAD followed it correctly. She was the one who didn't know it.
One of the nurses who was watching told me that the mid-level felt like she could treat me like that because I appear too apologetic. But I don't know how to avoid this. I feel as though I have lost all the confidence that I had before I came off orientation, and now I am setting myself up to have people ream me even when I haven't made mistakes. I know that they say that, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent," but I am terrified that I really am inferior. Everyday I go home and research everything I did, and I am horrified by every small thing that I did wrong. I worry that I shouldn't be in the ICU because I am not safe enough, or smart enough, or don't have a good enough memory.
I can't be the first person who has felt these things. Does anyone have suggestions on how to have more reasonable expectations of oneself? How do you know that you are safe? I know that I care, and that I care to learn, but what if that isn't enough? I sometimes feel as though the stress of the unit makes me forget all of the knowledge that I can so easily access when I'm at home.