Grouchy mean and can't please this NURSE . .Help!

[gelousstudent]

I work as a UC on a General Medsurg floor in a small 14 bed floor. . I am graduating in May as an RN. Anyway when I work this nurse literally picks on me EVERY DAY multiple times a day. She tries to insult me, has yelled at me (sort of) and points out SOMETHING that i am doing that she does not like - AND for instance. We have a board that is erasasble that the Rad Dept can put up who leaves the floor for X-ray and etc. . Well when I come in at 3 p.m. I start fresh, I erase the board from 7 am . . She yells "QUIT DOING THAT". Seriously, why? No one else complains and appreciates that the board is kept clean. OR when I am on the phone and she is near by and she hears me talking, she will bud into my conversation WHILE I am on the phone. For instance: RN called up from 2nd floor needing suction containers for the wall. NO PROBLEM I will bring them down - Well she heard me and in her messed up head she thought I wall taking about a unit that you screw into the wall. She said what, WAIT A MINUTE

[diane227, LPN, RN]

I worked with a nurse one time that was always up my butt for something and most of it was not related to work. She was spreading all kinds of rumors about my social life and told me that I was flirting and neglecting my patients. One day she started in on me and I took her into a vacant room and I just told her straight out that what I did on my own time was none of her business and as long as I wasn't doing it with her husband she didn't have anything to worry about. I told her that I understood that we hated each other. I told her that the only time we needed to communicate was when we were giving report to each other about a patient. Otherwise we did not have to speak. I told her that if she felt that I was not doing my job properly she should report me to the manager. Then I asked her if she had anything else she needed to talk about because this was the last conversation we were going to have. She just stood there with her mouth open, I walked out, and she never messed with me again. You have to put these people in their place.

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

Read the book Crucial Confrontations. Probably you really haven't confronted her with her behavior and she's getting away with it because you are sending the message that it is o.k. for her to treat you like that.

You're going to have to learn which battles to fight with her and which to let go. You're going to have to be consistent in your approach. Start with a talk "you know when you just talked to me now you sounded angry and demeaning, is this how you meant it?"....blah blah blah..........The next time she does it..."excuse me, you just did it again, didn't we agree that you were going to treat me more respectfully?"........again and again.

Come up with a plan on what you're going to say and follow through.