Came up with two more things to consider:
1. Being assertive isn't incompatible with being shy. You may have to work more on the former than the latter.
2. Don't confuse shyness with introversion (a personality trait) From Wikipedia: "Introversion
is "the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life".
Introverts tend to be quiet, low-key, deliberate, and relatively non-engaged in social situations. They take pleasure in solitary activities such as reading, writing, drawing, watching movies, listening to music, inventing, and designing....although they may enjoy one-to-one or one-to-few interactions with close friends...Introversion is not the same as shyness
, though introverts may also be shy. Introverts choose solitary over social activities by preference, whereas shy people avoid social encounters out of fear"
Your psychology lesson for today
from a very strong introvert.