Nursing Student needing ADVICE! - page 3

Hello. This problem I am having may need quite a long introduction, but I will summarize as best as I can. What I need is genuine advice. Last year I was a very hard working student and I got a 4.0... Read More

  1. by   Crazed
    Quote from sarahsather
    Okay, thank you. Yeah, I am going to try to take away all of this negativity and hope my dorm room can just work, because it is definitely the most convenient. I have another serious question. I have been using ear plugs now to study and sleep ever since the past probably 3-4 months, and now I am experiencing quite a lot of pain because of them. It is really worrying me because in a way I "depend" on them with my roommates snoring and to cancel out sounds while studying. I have started to use a very small drop of water inside of my ear canal to ease insertion of the earplugs since I have a small ear canal and now I fear that is maybe causing all of my pain. What do you think is the issue here? Right now I am sitting up at my computer and I just am dreading taking out the ear plugs because it drives me to the point where I am almost to tears.
    Swimmers ear.

    Also I think you need to evaluate your own level of personal responsibility. I am not trying to be mean but as a nontraditional student who lives in a home where I will be interrupted for any number of reasons I have had to learn coping strategies. Also if you are this easily distracted, and can't sleep, and irritable perhaps there is something else going on with you?
  2. by   CT Pixie
    While, I can sympathize with your situation, in my opinion you cannot expect a roommate to be 100% silent when you are in the room and trying to study. People make noise even when they are trying to be quiet. You asked that she use headphones when watching tv and she did it, you then say you find yourself being distracted with other things. I don't see how moving into a place that has your own bedroom will cancel out ALL the noise in the house. My husband snores on occasion...I can be on the 1st floor with him sleeping in our room on the 2nd floor and I can still hear his snoring if its quiet in the house.

    As the poster above stated, you are easily distracted, irritable, not being able to cope with noise and you can't sleep. Were you like this when you lived at home and needed to study during high school? Not being snarky with that question, just wondering if these aren't some sort of signs of stress you aren't dealing with well. Does your school have a counselor you could talk with. Maybe you have an underlying stress that's causing you to be so unable to tolerate any noise etc.
  3. by   sarahsather
    Thank you for your postings. So with this Swimmer's ear what do I do to get rid of it? I need my ear plugs at night for sure due to the snoring, but I suppose I will have to stop wearing them while studying. I have visited the counseling center at my school and they did not do much to help me besides suggest "muscle relaxation" techniques. I really agree with what you said though - I cannot expect someone to be completely quiet and I think I have somehow convinced myself that this girl needs to be that way, and anything that is deviated from 100% silence I find to be "so annoying" and it just sets me on edge. Do you think I should just leave my room altogether and study somewhere else all the time, or learn to cope with this environment since it is definitely a lot more convenient for me to study in and it really is not that loud since she does watch TV often and that makes the room noiseless.
  4. by   CT Pixie
    If it were me, I'd try different techniques to cope with the situation and study in the room. If it gets to the point where its really irritating, maybe take that 10 minute walk (its good for you physically and mentally) and go to the library to study for a while. Then head back again. It doesn't have to be an all or nothing thing for studying in the room or the library, mix it up a little.
  5. by   sarahsather
    Okay thanks I appreciate that advice. I will do that then. I will stop using my ear plugs and then just put on my headphones which are these: to cancel out some sounds without having to worry about it giving me swimmer's ear. I will put ear pods in with white noise too to see if that works for me. Are you guys able to say.. read a completley new reading in the textbook that you really need to understand WHILE listening to music or white noise? I just am so accustomed to needing complete silent when doing things like that, but I do not know if many others are able to have music while doing so - just wanting to see if it is worth giving a try or if it will end up being a mistake because I won't comprehend anything. I kind of just want to "train" myself to be able to study and read with music because I feel it may help my scenario a lot.
  6. by   CT Pixie
    I am a married woman with 2 kids (LOUD kids..haha), a husband, 2 dogs and 2 cats..needless to say my house is never quiet. I study better with a little background noise. If its totally silent I can't seem to concentrate on what I'm reading. So, to answer your question, I prefer a little background noise, whether that be music playing lowly in the room just the general noise in the house.
  7. by   sarahsather
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  8. by   vincent.rn22
    Count your blessings YOU ARE IN A NURSING PROGRAM call on your inner strenth things are gonna get
    much harder to cope with then a noisy room mate .....clinicals ,cranky patients ,etc. etc.etc.
  9. by   pecanpies
    I am not a counselor, psychiatrist, therapist, etc. and even if I were, that would in no way qualify me to offer any sort of diagnosis or advice over the internet. That being said...I sense a lot of anxiety in your post. You obsess about very normal everyday noises (shuffling papers, opening drawers, etc.) and it clearly is a source of intense stress for you. You obsess about the quality of your sleep, to the point where sleep is actually becoming more difficult. From what you have written, I get the feeling that you are experiencing the sense that the world is against you - you lost your old roommate, didn't get the single room, don't have a car, etc. You're focusing entirely on the negatives in your life, to the point that it is now affecting your sleep and health. You don't want to go to the library because it takes 10 minutes to walk there, but how much time have you spent worrying about this? I bet it's more than 10 minutes.

    Does your school have a counseling center for students? It might be helpful to talk some of this out, in person, with someone there. I am in no way suggesting that there is something "wrong" with you. We all go through stressful times in life and sometimes, the stress becomes too much. Do NOT let this hinder your path to becoming a nurse. A counselor can give you some strategies and coping mechanisms for dealing with this stress. If you don't have a counseling center, do you have health insurance? Many health insurance plans offer a limited number of counseling sessions via telephone, for free. It's worth looking in to. Good luck to you, and remember - this will pass! You can get through this.
  10. by   sarahsather
    Pecanpies - I appreciate your post. Hearing from all of you on this site has made me realize that I really need to be more optimistic about things. Earlier in the year, I was actually able to deal with these things and just shrug them off, but as you know, they have now become essentially the "end of the world" for me. Last night I turned around from my desk and told my roommate that I do not want to have this odd tension between us because it makes me being in the room feel really uncomfortable and I just want there to be nothing weird in between us. I believe that helped a little. I still cannot control her ever move, but I feel that my room in this dorm is probably quieter than a lot of the ones I could get stuck moving in to - so I will keep reminding myself that. Do you, pecanpies, think that I should spend the majority of my time studying in there? I am doing it right now and I am not having too many issues or stressful bouts, so I am hoping that maybe I am on the road back to my old self. I do only have one more semester left of this, and I guess it is not going to be perfect, but I will have to make use of a lot of stress-reduction techniques and make use of my alternative sites to study such as the study room in my dorm or my library, no matter how not so "ideal" they are in my mind.

    In addition, yes, I have visited the counseling center. To be honest, it was kind of "lame." They gave me a sheet with muscle relaxation techniques and told me to get an apartment off campus after I had told the woman three times I did not have a car.. haha, so it was not the best experience.
  11. by   pecanpies
    Sorry the counseling center was so unhelpful. =( That's frustrating. At least you gave it a shot!

    I spent a ton of time studying in the library when I was in school, both the first time around and when I went back for my BSN. When I was in school the first time (and living on campus with no car), the library was a 10 minute walk from my dorm room. When I went back for my BSN, the library was about 10 minutes away from the commuter parking lot. I walked to and from the library in rain, sleet, snow, you name it. Twenty minutes was a small price to pay for a quiet, calm study environment. Since you asked, I think you should give the library a try. At the school where I got my BSN, our library had about 10 "quiet rooms" - small rooms off one of the main levels with a door and a small desk. Those were REALLY quiet - and no distractions! There was nothing on the walls, no clocks, etc. They were the perfect place for someone (like me) who is very easily distracted by any level of noise or conversation. Maybe your library has something similar?
    You just happened to get lucky with that first roommate. No disrespect intended OP, but you have to understand that the room you share belongs to your roommate just as much as it does to you. While common courtesy should be given, I don't think you should expect her to tip toe around her own room just because slight noises bother you. How fair is that to her? I really mean no offense here, and what I'm about to say next may be taken harshly but know that I'm really not trying to upset you. Here it goes:

    Your last roommate spoiled you. Also, I find it crazy that you don't want to take a 10 minute walk to a quiet study hall. That blows my mind. Wow. Seriously, it blows my mind. I'm wondering whether this post is real because it's not like you said your new roommate is disrespectful, just that the noises that accompany normal day to day life is preventing you from studying. I mean, opening and closing drawers... Really!!!???!! She even agreed to wear head phones while she watches TV! I might do that once in a while if you had a mid term or something, but not all the time lol.

    But if you want a solution, go get a pair of those BOSE Quiet Comfort headphones. They're supposed to work like a condom. They're a bit expensive new, but if you check craigslist I'm sure you can find a pair at a reasonable price.

    Good luck with your studies. And again, I know the tone of this post may come off a bit stern, and I don't mean to upset you. But come on, you have to know that you're being just a tiny smidgen unreasonable...just a bit, maybe?
  13. by   grpman
    Go to the library and understand that if this is the worst thing you are coping with then all will be well. There are many here who are getting divorced, single with kids, have ill loved ones, work 2 jobs, etc,. and still manage to make it. Some people have a combination of what I just mentioned. I am saying all this to help put your problem in perspective, not to dismiss it. You do have a problem, but it is highly fixable.