Maybe I'm being a baby but..... this annoyed me a bit

[JennyRN09]

So, I finished Nursing I yesterday. And I'm thrilled. The department was able to have our final exam grade (89) and course grade (B+) within a couple of hours of the exam. So I waited for that and then came home. I showed it to my husband, and well......... Here's where I get angry....... he just said "um hmmmmm" and that was that. No, "hey that's great", no, "wow, good job", no "I'm proud of you", nothing. I didn't expect a party or presents or balloons, but, I was hoping for a little recognition for my hard work. Which all of you know, this is hard work. I busted my butt studying, doing my research, clinical prep and all that. No time for anything else but I still managed to keep the house clean, the clothes washed, and dinner on the table, the kids cared for. So, I guess I was just hoping to hear, "good job Hun". Oh well, at least the kids noticed. They all flocked me when they got home from school wondering how I did and then I got my "I'm proud of you" and "great job Mom". So, all is not lost. But, am I being silly? LOL. Maybe so, I just wish he'd notice. Well, either way I'm proud of me, that's all that matters.

[JennyRN09]

Oh how I recall feeling the same as you're all describing. I busted my hump in nursing school with two small younguns to care for while he worked in the corporate world traveling...all the time...all week long so he was NO help whatsoever while I was in school...well then, when I'd try to describe or relate as in have a regular ol' conversation (no names used, kept it confidential, of course) about something or anything related to nursing, he actually once said, " I forbid you to speak of nursing anymore around me!' "

I was like, what! Thinking, gee...I really AM in this ol' world of mine and my interests alone! Anyway, long story short. He never rewarded me with any positive feedback re: nursing school either. And when I did graduate he simply deflated my ego even more by stating: " ' Great. Now your salary is going to put me into a higher tax bracket.' " Just like that...as if that was the only thing he cared about. Seems it really was. He was all about just the bottom line on things, money. Making pots of it We divorced after a year of me working the required third shift of fresh grads...it was the final straw in already strained relationship...so yeah, I'd have that talk sooner rather than later. And by the way, it wasn't nursing or nursing school or graduating and working f/t as a RN that finished off my marriage....it was doomed from the start...just took me seven years to finally admit to it.

Good luck and congratulations on finishing that semester!

Wow, giggles here. You can read my other post, but wow, I have to say I don't have that exact problem. I'm so sorry you went through that. As I said in my other post, I got to the bottom of things and found out about the notice of a possible lay off in his department that came that day. But my hubby never told me things like "I forbid you to talk about nursing". Once he did say, "hun, I know your excited and I'm happy for you, but just once, can we take the few minutes you have and talk about something else", and understandably so. We do get wrapped up in nursing so much so that we don't realize that its all we talk about. But geez, after hearing your story, I feel so lucky now. I hope all worked out for you well. And I admire you, I have to say, going through that program alone with two little ones and absolutely no help, encouragement or anything from your husband had to be so hard. You are obviously a very strong person. Again, I am so sorry you went through that. But congratulations for making your dreams come true! Take care of yourself!

[GardenDove]

Sounds like you have a great marriage!

[MySimplePlan]

Boy, you handled that a lot better than I would have. Good luck to you the duration of this program!

[Jules A, MSN]

Could it just be something as simple as not realizing just how hard it is to get good grades in nursing school? I think we as women tend to do such a great juggling act, without melt downs, that sometimes it seems like what we do is easy.