help!How to take care of a newbornbabay

[materna]

hi,girls!The next semester,I think I can transfer to nursing program successfully but I am going to have a baby in this July!!! Many people persuade me to give up one year and re-apply the next fall.But,I really hate to leave shcool!Since my husbund is going to be student in Mcgill and there's no anyone else come to help us out.I really do not know if I should give up this chance and wait a year.(in fact,there will be some probability of refusing if I apply the next year,much more than this year,but now I have no time to explain)

I wonder how you girls in my situation solve this problem.Is there any daycare accept new born baby ? Privite or public are both ok.I am in Montreal.Thanks a lot!!

[rebeccalizzie]

I agree with Mitchsmom, if you get daycare because you don't trust your husband to take good care of the baby, he won't trust himself either, and you will do *everything*. At some point all of us who have kids had to learn how to care for a baby, either when we were younger, or when we have the child and are forced to learn it. Trust me, he will learn if he has no choice. The classes are a great idea, but he'll learn without them too.

I have a friend that did it all when her son was born, and now that the kid is a year and a half, her husband has not done much of anything, has the excuse that he doesn't know how, and the only people that are hurt are him and their son, because they haven't bonded at all. This is your husband's child too, he's capable of learning how to care for him/her.

[marilynmom, LPN, NP]

You can plan all you want now but the facts are things will be TOTALLY different after the baby gets here :)

Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy!!

Marilyn

[materna]

thank you all above! Maybe things would be totally different after my baby is born. There should be many many things I could not expect. Just like this baby,she comes so suddenly!! I had planed to finish nursing program in the next three years, but,you see, what happened!

[Dublin37]

i'm sure this is such a difficult question with all the hard work you have already done. but remember, you can work/go to school anytime, but that little infant, is only little for such a short time. you will not believe the amazing love & desire you will have for that little bug once he/she is here. i am 42, and heading into the nursing school as soon as i get called. i do not regret one bit waiting to spend time with my kids while they're so little. school will always be there, but your children will not always need you as much as they do the first 5 years. that's my opinion, god bless you, whatever you choose![/size]