Dear Nursing Students/Orientees: A Love Note from the Preceptor from Hell - page 7

Warning: The following post is rife with brutal honesty and frustration. Read at your own risk. Memorandum from the desk of Your Friendly Neighborhood Sociopath~~ Dear Nursing... Read More

  1. by   echoRNC711
    I have precepted for close on 20 yrs. At first I was a woman on a mission and was dubbed "the General". Yes, orientees learned and were well trained. I had sheets made out to have them account for time and compete with themselves until they could be 1 hr ahead of schedule (to always make room for a potential code )
    However, I do cringe now when I look back on it. My heart was in the right place but honestly it need not have been that difficult for either of us. Perhaps I have softened . I now look at orientees and ask myself more often "what does this nurse need right now " and I try to facilitate that. Mostly I tried to encourage them to step out that I am on their side. The very first words I tell a new nurse is "I am not here to judge you but to facilitate learning. I welcome mistakes because it means you are stepping out and making decisions.I will be behind you .I want you to feel safe to tell the truth and that way we can figure out where you feel weak and strengthen those areas " I also give honest feedback if they are slacking I tell them. I tell them they set the pace,if they want to learn I will tell them everything I know but if they want to skate then that is their choice. I precept because I love both teaching and nursing. I do privately hope that they will go on to do this for other new nurses and raise the profession higher where we take care of each other better.
    OP I don't doubt your sincerity or passion and you sound like an entertaining teacher. There is room for all types of nurses including tears. Most nurses have cried somewhere in their career.Making it a teaching moment. Everyone is teacheable if they are helped to find confidence the rest is simply experience and developing organizational skills. Thank you for taking the time to teach ,we need to do it more in our profession.
  2. by   Ntheboat2
    You did say in your post that you know it may not apply to "our" exact set of circumstances. That didn't go unnoticed.

    I was just saying, in my opinion, most of the things you mentioned would be relevant to someone with little to no working experience or life experience in general. On the other hand, I've seen 50 somethings (new nurses) who act like nervous lost puppies so there are always exceptions of course.

    Assuming that most new nurses need as much guidance and/or praise as your article suggests would be as naive as believing every preceptor does a good job or even knows what they're doing. My preceptor, for example, was younger than me and had only been a nurse herself for 2 years. She was constantly using her acrylic nails (uh, no) to text on her iPhone.

    But it was a good article overall when applied to the type of students/new nurses it represents.
  3. by   foggnm
    Hmmm. I have to say this post annoyed me in its self-righteousness. Take a break from precepting and nursing.
  4. by   neverbethesame
    I'll bet her bark is worse than her bite!! Errrrr.....

    Memorandum from the desk of Your Friendly Neighborhood Sociopath~~
    Wouldn't you love to meet her former preceptees?? Actually, when someone self-identifies as a sociopath then I really want to meet everyone around them and get the whole story!!

    Because medical personnel are predatory pack animals. When you cry, they scent blood and bay for their pack mates to take notice. They watch. Stalking. Lurking. Marking you as weak, ready to cast you aside to larger predators, or, more readily, pick the psychological meat from your bones themselves.
    Why do I get the feeling that the OP is more than ok with seeing a little blood spilled in the name of caring??
    Last edit by neverbethesame on Dec 5, '12 : Reason: Punctuation
  5. by   Piggles
    Wow, what a great read! I plan to read this at least three more times. I am 3 weeks away from my first preceptorship and I want to make the most of it. I have a background in education and I think what preceptors do is so vital to this profession that I am so proud to becoming a part of.
  6. by   daverika
    I pray that one day your preceptee becomes your charge nurse or manager. I pray your colleagues have the guts to report your abusive behavior to your current manager. But most of all I pray you give up nursing and find another profession. We don't need your brand of self-righteous nastiness propagated any further than this generation. You are known by how you treat the least and most vulnerable. And you don't treat them with any kind of respect whatsoever. Shame on you.
  7. by   daverika
    aaaa aaaa aaaa aaa aaaa
    Last edit by daverika on Dec 6, '12 : Reason: remove comment
  8. by   Barnstormin' PMHNP
    so THAT'S why we say nurses eat their young.......they're "Predatory pack animals". Mystery solved.
  9. by   melmarie23
    Quote from Piggles
    Wow, what a great read! I plan to read this at least three more times. I am 3 weeks away from my first preceptorship and I want to make the most of it. I have a background in education and I think what preceptors do is so vital to this profession that I am so proud to becoming a part of.
    one of my best preceptors was a former teacher (high school biology). She was so patient and kind, but also stern when she had to be. She was amazing.
  10. by   ThePrincessBride
    Quote from Ntheboat2
    Nurses are such a diverse group. There are tons of nurses who become nurses later in life and plenty of 2nd or 3rd career nurses who have been successful in their professional and personal lives before nursing.

    When I read the original sounds like it's directed at a 20 year old kid who those kind of antics might work with.

    However, if that kind of "breaking down" had been attempted on me or the majority of my classmates, I'm sure the preceptor would've been in for a surprise.

    Little kid games don't work on grown ups.
    Since when is a twenty year old a child? I can tell you in my 21 years, I have lived a hard life and seen and experience things that a lot of 40 year olds have never and will never experience in their lives.

    Twenty-somethings aren't children and to treat us like we are high schoolers is offensive. Not too long ago, it was normal for a 20 year old to be married with children and running a household. Now? We've been demoted to kid status.
  11. by   joanna73
    While some of you are clearly not impressed by this post, I think some of the content is meant tongue in cheek. Not to be taken literally. Anyway, to each his own. I had some preceptors who I'm sure were despised by at least a few people. But those of us who were able to recognize the value of their teaching style did very well. Certainly, there are many personality types and people learn differently. Nevertheless, as the OP mentioned, the student is there to learn to be a nurse.
  12. by   Spidey's mom
    Tongue planted firmly in cheek was my take as well. It was meant as humor, like Dave Barry or Bill Bryson.

    Gave me a hearty laugh out loud.

    I'm not a believer in the old "nurses eat their young" drivel and there are plenty of old threads on here about that issue. Suffice it to say there are jerks in all walks of life and there is nothing about being a nurse that makes a person be a jerk. If you meet a jerky nurse, they were jerky before becoming a nurse.
  13. by   lorirn58
    Hey RyanCarolinaBoy,
    Squatmunkie brings up some excellent points and has an opinion (just like YOU have an opinion); therefore, there is NO reason for you to "hate on" Squatmunkie! Do you realize that is what YOU are doing, "hating on" squatmunkie?
    Thanks to Squatmunkie, CherylRNBSN, and KatieMI for pointing out some of the hostile leanings of this article.