I am just basically looking for stories of folks who have been through it, and what were your circumstances like? did you make it through or did you have to repeat any of the program?
I am due about 6 weeks before my graduation. I am so nervous about this (no, it was NOT planned!) and wondering if I can do it. I just paid my tuition for my final semester today. :uhoh21:
My director is a very nice lady who understand, one of my instructors I am very close to and she is so supportive of me. This all helps. And they are trying to work with me on how I can possibly do this and not fall behind. But any logistics are not worked out and I am freaking out over here.
The thought of flunking out due to 6 weeks of school and having to repeat 9 months of school over again (not to mention pay plus have a new baby to worry about!) is killing me. I am so nervous.
I have family support, and have childcare all worked out through my husband and mom. But physically, who knows how I will be after I deliver. Emotional state is a question too, I have been quite hormonal and crying a lot this pregnancy (gee, I wonder why?).
I want to finish school so bad. So bad I can taste it. If I don't I'm so afraid of how I will handle failure.
I'm due about 6 weeks before graduation as well - I've told my instructors, have cut my hours at work, and checking my BP religiously - and just trying to not stress out too much. Others do it - this one is my 2nd, so we're excited - just hoping that baby will be on time, timing is right, etc. My husband will stay home w/baby and I'll go back after a few days, but hope to be done with many of my clinicals by then so that I can be at home as much as possible. The school has a room for nursing mothers to pump, which is nice.
Ah we are in the same situation! We will have to keep in touch. So what is your due date?
I've already talked to my instructors too about having a room to pump. They were both like "of course! use my office!" Nice having women, support other women, you know? We are also going to be doing the finger feeding system while I am away so that the baby does not have to take a bottle. I am so worried about how this is all going to play out that I'm trying to cover all my bases. Anything else you are thinking of (ideas?) to work out that you could possibly throw my way?
I'm realistic that it'll be tough - but jov, to say that someone is going to fail as a mom because she's going finishing school is pretty harsh - there are many, many women who have to go back to work as soon as they can (before the 6 weeks, I mean - within days) because of circumstances - are they bad moms too?
I think a mom working or going to school is admirable. hard, certainly not ideal, but admirable. It's better than say, partying all night while showing your crotch having a newborn at home, ala Britney Spears. LOL I hope I am providing a good example to my children on how wonderful education is, something to pursue and never give up on. And that you can have it all if you work at it and try hard. I hope my children will look up to me as their mom who is educated and bright, and they will pursue educational goals in their lives. Sure there are some that want to judge others for this choice, that is their choice. I prefer to look at it the way I looked at my parents who both went to school and worked while I was growing up. Wonderful role models.
FYI - You won't miss the first weeks of baby - you'll go to school, come home, and do what you need to to make up for the time you were way - you'll be tired, but that's a given. I'm glad to hear that you'll have good support - that makes a huge difference!
Well, in reality I *will* miss some time with my newborn. I am sad about this, of course. But I also feel I am proactive in working out the logistics of this. My mother is an awesome support, and she will be here helping my husband out with our children those days I do have to precept. My husband will drive baby to me for nursing breaks, I am so glad this is going to happen because nursing baby is extremely important to me.
And when I'm done with school in May I can't wait to go back to being sahm! I will probably work a few days a month, but this daily grind is getting old.
BTW, where are you working? I am an LPN working prn a few days a month in acute med/surg. I love this field.
I think you should try, but be careful and listen to your body. Continue with Dr. appts and take BP often. We had a student in the last week of LPN program get PIH and ended up on bedrest. She only missed that last week, so the instructors let her graduate (she didn't walk across the stage of course), and she had to come back afterwards to make up her 5 days. So work with your instructors. Just BE CAREFUL!
hmmm... must have been a hormonal moment. I'm sure you'll do just fine.
No, I really was/am nervous and was looking for btdt stories. That wasn't hormones, it was reality. At the point I wrote this post I'd met with my don once and things were not settled. That made me *very* nervous. I've since met with her two more times to work out issues and I have some stuff in writing now so I do feel better about the finishing-school aspect of this all.
My main response to you which you quoted was due to the "failure as a mom" comment. Yea, been a mom for awhile...proactive, smart, trying to plan ahead....this isn't going to make or break me. Am I still very nervous? Yes. Will I probably freak out a few more times during the next semester? Sure.
There were five women that were expecting (one with twins) and they all made it out ok and graduated with the rest of the class. Good luck and congrats on the new arrival. (that goes for the other in your situation as well) :)
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I'm due about 6 weeks before graduation as well - I've told my instructors, have cut my hours at work, and checking my BP religiously - and just trying to not stress out too much. Others do it - this one is my 2nd, so we're excited - just hoping that baby will be on time, timing is right, etc. My husband will stay home w/baby and I'll go back after a few days, but hope to be done with many of my clinicals by then so that I can be at home as much as possible. The school has a room for nursing mothers to pump, which is nice.
Ah we are in the same situation! We will have to keep in touch. So what is your due date?
I've already talked to my instructors too about having a room to pump.
They were both like "of course! use my office!" Nice having women, support other women, you know? We are also going to be doing the finger feeding system while I am away so that the baby does not have to take a bottle. I am so worried about how this is all going to play out that I'm trying to cover all my bases. Anything else you are thinking of (ideas?) to work out that you could possibly throw my way?
I'm realistic that it'll be tough - but jov, to say that someone is going to fail as a mom because she's going finishing school is pretty harsh - there are many, many women who have to go back to work as soon as they can (before the 6 weeks, I mean - within days) because of circumstances - are they bad moms too?
I think a mom working or going to school is admirable. hard, certainly not ideal, but admirable. It's better than say, partying all night while showing your crotch having a newborn at home, ala Britney Spears. LOL I hope I am providing a good example to my children on how wonderful education is, something to pursue and never give up on. And that you can have it all if you work at it and try hard. I hope my children will look up to me as their mom who is educated and bright, and they will pursue educational goals in their lives. Sure there are some that want to judge others for this choice, that is their choice. I prefer to look at it the way I looked at my parents who both went to school and worked while I was growing up. Wonderful role models.
FYI - You won't miss the first weeks of baby - you'll go to school, come home, and do what you need to to make up for the time you were way - you'll be tired, but that's a given. I'm glad to hear that you'll have good support - that makes a huge difference!
Well, in reality I *will* miss some time with my newborn. I am sad about this, of course. But I also feel I am proactive in working out the logistics of this. My mother is an awesome support, and she will be here helping my husband out with our children those days I do have to precept. My husband will drive baby to me for nursing breaks, I am so glad this is going to happen because nursing baby is extremely important to me.
And when I'm done with school in May I can't wait to go back to being sahm! I will probably work a few days a month, but this daily grind is getting old.
BTW, where are you working? I am an LPN working prn a few days a month in acute med/surg. I love this field.
Rebecca