Why does my Nursing student friend get offended??

[AspiringNurse7]

Whenever I ask him whats the toughest part of Nursing school, he tells me he'll let me know when he graduates.He never answers my questions regarding Nursing S.He tells me to ask my advisor ..Is he really in NUrsing school?? I find it really odd that my friend cannot give me any advice.They always say ask other students or friends for advice regarding professors, toughness of a course, etc..I feel like im offending him.Do you guys get offended when asked about NS?? Why do you think he does?

[Zookeeper3]

please,itsmyturn, use the enter key, please, asked in a nice way, not nasty, its vey hard to read such a long paragraph and want to pay attention to what you have to say!

Different ??'s, are you concerned that your friend is NOT in the program and lying to you as you are looking for advice.

Have you considered the point blank approach; "I'd love to talk to you about nursing school and how it is for you, but you don't seem to want to talk about it?".

and then; "I'm concerned because I fear you're not happy with school and you don't wish to discuss it"

finally... "is there something about nursing school that you'd like to share with me, there are other things to talk about too, our relationship doesn't revolve around school".

-are you in school

-are you having problems in school

-we're more than school, and if you've lied, we're ok, let's get it out

[nursemike, ASN, RN]

I'm the sort who rarely lets my own ignorance prevent me from having (and expressing) an opinion, and I was the type of nursing student who pretty routinely advised everyone I knew to go to nursing school.

For me, the hardest part of nursing school was the first semester of med-surg--it hit me like a truck--and the hardest part of that was careplanning. But that was my experience, and others breezed right through it. Or, at least, they didn't have as much trouble as I did.

There are some instructors that I, my classmates, and everyone I've talked to who has been through the program thought were fabulous.

Mostly, though, opinions are divided. Some people really didn't care much for some of my favorites; others I thought were good, but tough, others have said were sweetie-pies.

Your advisor is by far and away the best source for info about how to get into the program. I graduated two years ago, and the criteria has changed at least twice since I started. Your advisor has a better chance of keeping up with policies than any student, and you may want to check with more than one advisor.

[NightOwl0624]

I don't like answering questions, either. I don't mind the "how's it going?" general type things, but anything more specific, I try to avoid.

Most people I know have absolutely NO IDEA what nursing school is like, how difficult it is to get into a program, the stress of getting good grades, etc. I just don't feel like being their educator! I've had too many discussions before (classes can't be THAT hard, you're going to a CC - standards must be lower, why would anyone hire a nurse with a 2 year degree, etc.) and would just rather concentrate on myself than constantly defend my choices.

Not saying you're doing that, but believe me, it can get old real fast.

[Zookeeper3]

i'm the sort who rarely lets my own ignorance prevent me from having (and expressing) an opinion, and i was the type of nursing student who pretty routinely advised everyone i knew to go to nursing school.

for me, the hardest part of nursing school was the first semester of med-surg--it hit me like a truck--and the hardest part of that was careplanning. but that was my experience, and others breezed right through it. or, at least, they didn't have as much trouble as i did.

there are some instructors that i, my classmates, and everyone i've talked to who has been through the program thought were fabulous.

mostly, though, opinions are divided. some people really didn't care much for some of my favorites; others i thought were good, but tough, others have said were sweetie-pies.

your advisor is by far and away the best source for info about how to get into the program. i graduated two years ago, and the criteria has changed at least twice since i started. your advisor has a better chance of keeping up with policies than any student, and you may want to check with more than one advisor.

our advisors were not always nursing personale, especially if you were in 18 hours and had a general advisor. we depend upon our upper classmen to carry us through, give care plan guidance in meetings, help with clinical presentation and preparation. sometimes it is best to have someone that had excelled the last semester to guide you through and nudge you. this is my point, we start to grow our teachers young, it starts here. we owe our experience to those who will travel in our shoes the next journey, same as on the floor, even 13 years out, it can't have changed that much. to me, teaching others will never get old.

[danh3190]

Somebody just asked me today what the hardest part of nursing school is. Since I'm still in it I had no idea what to answer him. Besides, so far nothing particularly harder than the rest, it's just all challenging.