The First Time I Had to Tell a Family That Their Loved One Passed Away - page 2

The term "actively dying" has always struck me as amusing, because in the end we're all going to die. So in a sense, no matter how healthy, we're all actively dying. Of course, when we say it at... Read More

  1. by   midazoalm1953
    Ahhh. When I was an ICU nurse up until 18 months ago I never had a problem with "i'm sorry (mom, dad, grandma, your brother, wife, etc) has died. It became sort of "routine. But what was not routine was I was developing a dread, close to definitetly not liking taking care of pt's that really should be on palliative care vs " do everything" for a person long beyond help. So I left ICU and have now become a Hospice nurse. Best decision I have made as a nurse. Reality is common place and helping a patient die at home with the family doing the primary care is as rewarding as my first code resucitaion way back when..... Not everyone can deal with death but comfort care and compassion far supercede intubating everyone and starting pressors and dialysis, etc ....just bad medicine I could no longer be a part of.
  2. by   mxray0323
    I came here looking for comfort and signs of the death process. My husband is an RN and I'm an interventional xray tech. My dad is on hospice and actively dying. I don't see what you all see at the bedside. I see a procedure that usually helps a patient and they leave my area. I see death, but not as often and not for prolonged periods of time. I'm seeing it now with my dad and it's very difficult. What you said brought me to tears. You have so much tenderness and compassion. Thank God for you. I try to treat every patient like my family. My husband does too. That's so important. This article helped me understand the dying process better and also gave me a better appreciation of all those who are there for the end of life care. Thank you.