Nurse addict? - page 4
My wife is an RN and recently I've become more concerned about certain things I've found around our house. I'm not in the medical profession but thought maybe someone in this forum could offer me... Read More
Sep 8, '01FYI At our hospital if the full amount in the vial is not accounted for in the med sheets as being given to the patient we are called to the manager's office where we need to give a full account to the pharmacist and nursing manager. Based on that I think she has falsified the chart somehow to account for the missing med.
Once she is caught I think she might get one warning for one episode, and would probably be fired for the second episode. Aside from patients not getting their meds, the hospital can lose it's accreditation in a cool minute if they are not tracking narcotics.
To draw a parallel, what if a new teller at a bank had a balanced worksheet at the end of the day, but was going home with a couple twenties occasionally. It might be an honest mistake once (not likely) but they would never let them get away with it again.
Considering that her health is at risk, why not call the manager of the unit and ask about policies of disposing of narcotics. Manager WILL find out eventually, if you continue to find meds at home.
Really still think she has a problem.
Sep 9, '01To Banker--I know of NOWHERE where nurses take narcotics home "accidentially" and "joke about it". NOWHERE. Period.
At this point, I think you have two choices--decide you will ignore everything and just pretend it never happened or move forward in helping your wife. If you choose the first path, eventyally your wife will end up 1) fired 2) in jail and/or 3) dead. It may be sooner or later, but there will be some result, and it will be unpleasant.
No one can get another into treatment unless the addict wil at least acknowledge that there is a problem. But if you want to help your wife, I think you need to seek out some professional help. If there a minister/counselor/knowledgable friend you could speak with? If not, seek out a professional thru your own EAP--employes assistance program. You need some help and some knowledgable advice about your options at this point.
I cannot tell you strongly emough that your wife DOES have a problem, and I honestly don't think this is a new behavior, because she has put a lot of energy into coming up with excuses, even tho she is leaving clues in obvious places. The disease of addicition is very powerful and very persuasive. You face a difficult task, and it may cost you your marriage, even if you manage to help your wife recover from her illness. I am gratful that I am not in your position, and not faced with your choices.
Blessings to you both--
Sep 10, '01get her help, if not get out of there because everything will catch up with her eventually