Good Bye to Nursing for me... - page 2

Well, the start of a new year and I'm kissing nursing good bye after only 5 short months. I graduated in may and started at a hospital in august. My very first preceptor was a nightmare, on my... Read More

  1. by   TrudyRN
    Well, deep breath. OK. Keep up your license, absolutely. Mazel Tov (congrats) re: pregnancy.

    You might want to pick up a doctor's office job. Low pay compared to the hospital but day hours, probably no weekends, definitely no night shifts or holidays. Or maybe school nursing. Also, you might consider taking some LTC or hospital work part-time. You maybe aren't feeling so well right now and will see things differently once early pregnancy is past. Also, what about opening a day care in your home? You could care for children with minor illnesses, being an RN, if you have the confidence to do it. You know about handwashing, isolation, sanitation and could safely do it, while also caring for your own child.

    I just hate to see you throw away all your hard work. I also hate to think about the sad possibility that you might someday have to support yourself and your child. Not wishing bad for you but sickness, husband losing his job for whatever reason, death, divorce - these things happen. You must be able to fend for yourself.

    I hope you rethink this and find a workable solution. God bless you.
  2. by   Goodoldnurse
    It amazes me that a few nurses can be so cruel and make others feel bad. Keep your license current! You may find one of the may lines outside of the hospital are where you fit right in! I know MANY who were so anxious about going to work at the hospital, but could not wait to get to work when they went to hospice or home health. I know a few others that work in offices and small surgical centers that enjoy going to work.
    Enjoy the baby, and keep your ears and your heart open!
  3. by   nurseybertie
    Don't give up on nursing, even though you had terrible experiences. There are many rewarding nursing careers that allow
    you to work independently or with decent people. Dr's offices, home health care, insurance companies, managed care, surgery centers, adult day care centers, mobile blood banks, sales and marketing just to name a few. You worked to hard to throw it all away. Those mean precepters need to get off that high horse and walk with the rest of the tribe! Good luck in what ever you decide.
  4. by   toadie
    sorry u had such a terrible time. when i started my orientation was just horrible. worked thee six monthes and started looking into going back to school for something else. at the urging of some coworkers decided to try another facility before i quit nursing. this other hospital is great.
    problem with nursing is that school does not provide any real insight inot the real world. they paint a picture of what nursing SHOULD be not what it is. so when u graduate and it doesn't work that way u feel like a failure. not necessarily because u aren't doing what u r supposed to do; but because u are failing to do what u always thought u could do.
    good luck 2 u.
  5. by   jmckeith
    Wow, has anyone noticed how many post has been placed by all the respondants to this post? On average, they are fairly low numbers which has me wondering, are we mostly newbies concerned with this post? My wife, a nurse of 30 years, has done and seen alot in nursing. She is a Hospice case load manager now and she loves the autonomy. My point being, there are good jobs out there.
  6. by   penguin2
    I'm so sorry to hear about your experience! I would not give up just yet though. I had a similar experience as a young nurse many years ago. I quit after 3 months at a huge teaching hospital, tolerating things from other nurses I would NEVER put up with now- and went to work in a laboratory!! A year later I felt ready to try again, so I went to a small hospital (300 bed) & it was great. I might add that 3-11 is a little less stressful than day shift, no admin. around, and more laid back- easier to learn-- I learned alot, stayed 5 yrs b/f I moved out of state. Consider using the time you're pregnant to learn & then you'll at least have some experience under your belt & if you choose to go per diem you won't be trying to orient while working only a few days/wk. You may not need the income now, but it's always good to have a back-up plan for the future.
  7. by   healer27
    To everyone that has posted so far - I just want to THANK YOU ALL so much for your encouraging words and being willing to share personal insights and advice.

    I'm not going to give up my license I will keep it up as many of you have suggested. I also will probably look for work (not immediately) in a doc's office.

    Penguin2 you said you worked for awhile in a lab? what did you do there? just being curious.

    Does anyone know what they look for you to do in a doc's office? BP, height, weight? what else?

    At the moment though I feel like I have this "cloud" of mean people that have appeared at each job so I want to give it some time for I go reapplying for a new job.

    thanks again to everyone for all your suggestions, keep em coming....
  8. by   Spidey's mom
    A free standing surgical center.... no weekends, no holidays.

  9. by   healer27

    do you have to be experienced to work at a free standing surgery center?
  10. by   P_RN
    Healer27 it sounds like you didn't get the introduction to the nursing life. Not all nurses work in hospitals. I didn't until I'd been out of school almost 5 years. In life there are just mean people. There are also nice people and you sound like you are one.

    Congratulations on the little one. Don't leave, just take a short vacation.
  11. by   GeminiTwinRN
    Congrats on the baby!

    Don't let a couple of <bad> experiences scare you off from what you've worked so hard to attain. If you are leaving temporarily because of your pregnancy, that's one thing, but to leave altogether seems extreme, IMO.

    I hope you'll reconsider, and look for something else.

    Take care, and enjoy your pregnancy and baby.

  12. by   cardiacRN2006
    Healer---sigh.....I have followed your posts this whole time. I know EXACTLY how you've felt, and so I'm not suprised by this post. Nursing is sooooo hard, and to be put down in front of others is just terrible. My preceptor did that to, she said , "what is is that she doesn't understand??" in front of everyone-including my mananger.....

    I was lucky that things did get better. But I SOOOOoooo understand your stress, and anxiety about going to work everyday. I cried sometimes at the thought of going when it was at its worst for me.

    I think a vacation is in order for you-seriously! I would recommend a few mai tais, but I see you're expecting!!!! Congrats .

    Some time off will help you realize that it's not you-it's the other mean people that have caused this stress in your life. You can get back to living without feeling so bad about yourself and your career choice.

    Then, find a good place to work, and give it a shot again.

    Keep us posted!
  13. by   GardenDove
    Don't forget that if you're in early pregnancy, your hormones are haywire and exacerbate any pre-existing anxiety 10-fold. Thank goodness you have a hubby with a good job! Just take a breather like people have said. Eat well, get plenty of rest, and enjoy the anticipation of your little one! You'll be fine.