My unit Manager is going out of her way to be nasty and bullying, I don't know what i should do, should i leave it and try my best to ignore her or should i tell the director of nursing that if she continues i will file a harrassment and bullying suit against her, baring in mind that the unit manager will retire in 8 weeks but may come back to do supervising roles.
Last evening she pulled me aside and told me that i did not get the role as unit manager because i'm not apart of the ward, i do not attend ward meetings and if i do attend i do not have any input.
This is all untrue, if anyone read the minutes of the ward meetings they would see my name is there as present at all meetings except when they are held on a monday as i work elsewhere, the last meeting i tiold her earlier in the day that i had to leave no later than 3.10 pm to pick my children up from school as my husband was away and i had no other way of getting them home. I usually have something to say at a meeting (eg: there were three issues that i wanted to discuss) and the time before that what i wanted to say was brought up by someone else.
She made me very upset and i could not stop crying, she just sat there looking at me and then got up and walked out put on her coat and left for the night.
So what should i do, i'm dreading facing her next week.
I don't know about killing her with kindness won't she think i'm sucking up, what i said was just the tip of the ice burg if i metioned everything she has done and not only to me it would be pages and pages, unfortunately she is a close friend of DON.
So today i go to work and i will be professional, strong and kind, i have 99% of the hospital backing me so I know i do a good job it is just not recognised by those who need to know it most.
She will not break me I will go to work today as a professional, I know i do a good job i have many who tell me that including, doctors, hospital supervisors and other unit managers. With this person it is how much she can manipulate you and unfortunately she does not like the way i do things, if she wants to talk further to me it will be out in the open in front of others as i have not done anything wrong.
This is all untrue, if anyone read the minutes of the ward meetings they would see my name is there as present at all meetings except when they are held on a monday as i work elsewhere, the last meeting i tiold her earlier in the day that i had to leave no later than 3.10 pm to pick my children up from school as my husband was away and i had no other way of getting them home.
Beware of the "working elsewhere" - also "having children" - you would think Nursing would be a friendlier enviorment. Sad- honesty is not always the best policy and in this world such a thing can still set you up for the Viper bite. Just don't bad mouth - and Yes in this modern world - report the harrassment HR because it is your only defense of not getting stabbed in the back.
killing her with kindness does not mean sucking up- I'm not encouraging you to buy her coffee. It simply means that if she makes a suggestion acknowledge it "thank you for your suggestion, I appreciate your feedback." don't go into work expecting a bad day or for her to say anything, if she does shake it off and keep moving. I like to take a break and pray for the person and breathe, because do you know how miserable you have to be to try and ruin someone day on purpose? Once she sees her ***** attitude or constant 2 cents doesn't bug you shell stop.
bubbles64
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I don't know about killing her with kindness won't she think i'm sucking up, what i said was just the tip of the ice burg if i metioned everything she has done and not only to me it would be pages and pages, unfortunately she is a close friend of DON.
So today i go to work and i will be professional, strong and kind, i have 99% of the hospital backing me so I know i do a good job it is just not recognised by those who need to know it most.