I hate nursing.. - page 5

I graduated in December, and have been working on an inpatient oncology unit since. I DREAD going to work each week. The days I do have off, I'm too tired to enjoy. I'm not overwhelmed or any of the... Read More

  1. by   number49
    Its really sad when you worked so hard in nursing school and you are waiting to see the light at the end of the tunnel......graduation and find you made a mistake. I hope I don't feel that way once I start working as a nurse. This is a second career for me. My first career was in sales and marketing. I was told recently by one of my peers that most of the peers in my nursing class think I suck up to my instructors. I was very disappointed when I heard that. My personality is out going and I just turned 50. Most of my peers are younger than me. I really like talking to my instructors because they are my age. I had no idea I was percieved as a suck up. I hope when I go to work I do not get the same feedback from my co-workers.

    Any advise?
  2. by   number49
    I agree. Why do people have to be so mean and rude? I thought nursing was a caring profession. Its not fair to the patients and your co-workers if you have lost the reason you got into nusing in the first place......to help people. I would hate to think if I was dying, the last people I saw was miserable nurses. I hope my dad didn't die like that!!
  3. by   Designer NP
    Just because you don't like your job doesnt mean that nurses who are burnt out will treat their patients badly. The nurses who experience burnout are actually the ones who care the most.
  4. by   beenthere33
    I graduated from Nursing School in 1981. For the first year, I wondered what the he#L I'd gotten myself into. Then I got floated to ICU, a task that I was completely incompetent to perform (yes I let it happen). I was treated like the village idiot and given no support. I felt I had come to an absolute dead end. I spent the entire shift in the room without leaving my patient - at first out of fear. By the end of the shift - I had decided that no one would get the best of me again. I took on every learning opportunity I could get and every certification I could get - was I stupid or did I just need to find another occupation? DO NOT LET other bitter short-sighted people decide your career for you. About the patients the human beings you care for - You either give a damn or you don't. Once you decide that, you WILL make the right decision.
  5. by   beenthere33
    boo-ya! If you've given nursing a chance and hate it - it's time to get out. Don't make the decision too quickly; I'm glad I didn't. RN for 29 years.
  6. by   SoundofMusic
    I have to think about this sometimes, long and hard.

    The doctors I have learned to LOVE and respect. They work so hard, and they also are disrespected by patients and families. Most of them have patience beyond all measure. I have grown to love and revere so many of them.

    The techs I love and respect, even though they like to hide on me a lot of the times. They work so hard and make so little money. We should all be grateful that they do what they do. To me, the fun of work is being w/ the techs, teasing them, making them laugh, and joking around. We are all like clowns together who put on this "show" for the patients everyday -- and they love it.

    The patients can be demanding and disrespectful, but they are sick. They come to us in good faith that we'll take care of them and make them well. I have learned so much from so many of them, and when I'm having a bad day w/ co-workers, I will just choose to "hang" with my patients and find ways to brighten their day. Families, well, they're a pain, but they're just worried about their loved one.

    This leaves two groups: managers and co-workers.

    My managers work hard, and I can truly say that they seem to really care about the unit and running it well. They are very dedicated, and I can't blame them for some of the negative things -- they are only hired to carry out orders from above. Many of them have been very good to me and work hard to satisfy my requests. There are a couple of bad apples -- maybe one on our unit. But mostly I can avoid working w/ her if I schedule myself right. I'm not sure I could do their job -- it's tough.

    That leaves co-workers. I'd say a good 50% of them are wonderful people, smart, cooperative, fun to work with, good at what they do, etc -- but there are the other 50% of them who act like such WITCHES that it makes my day entirely uncomfortable and at times, almost frightening. I just LOVE the lazy butt night nurse who judges me for not "getting it all done" so that she/he might have to actually get off her behind during the night and run a little to tie up loose ends for the patient. Or the nurse who picks and critcizes me over every little thing. Then there are the gossipers, the clickmeisters, the nasty looks, the lazy, the ones who refuse to help, who love nothing more than to write you up, backstab, and generally behave subversively in every way.

    It is YOU, you other 50% -- YOU are the ones who ruin nursing for me. You don't get it, you don't want to get it. You are very unhappy people who hate what you do, yet your'e too lazy to move on. Here's a newsflash: You DON'T impress me!!! As a new grad, I expected nurses to be so much better -- to be kind, to be teachers, to BE SMART, to impart their knowledge -- what I got was a bunch of LOSERS who would rather get it for themselves than bother to make life livable for any new nurse. It seems all I ever hear in my ear is CYA, or you'll get sued. I'm doing this so I won't get sued. Or, don't make me help you -- I'm too burnt out to care or to do any more work than I have to. Seriously -- IF you have any inkling that you may be this kind of nurse -- LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND MAKE SOME CHANGES~!~~!!!!!!!!

    So, nursing would be awesome, if it weren't for some of the nurses. That's my .02.
  7. by   RNpinky
    i also am unhappy in my job. I have been qualified as a RN for 6 months and work on CCU. i disliked/hated near enough all my training and wanted to quit so many times but i kept going with the support of my family as it can lead me elsewhere...which is has!!
    i have been accepted to study biomedical science this september (another 3 years of studying ) and i cannot wait. the thought of learning about the biomedicine of the body without the patient care and contact is what excites me..i know i must sound awful but i really am not the 'hands on nurse' that patients need. I will still have to work part time as RN whilst studying but hey least i know i am heading for a happier career!!!
  8. by   beckster_01
    Well, I haven't started my RN job yet, but I worked as a PCT in the MICU/CCU for 2 years...what an experience. I loved the job itself, the patient population, families, etc. But from my first day I felt like all of my coworkers, techs and nurses, had no respect for me or my work. While other techs took hour long lunches and disappeared on "errands" I was always on the floor, making sure patients were turned, cleaned, etc (my job). It seemed as if there were only 2-3 nurses who would even acknowledge my presence (besides asking me to help them). They were rarely encouraging to me about being in nursing school and some even went as far as to ask me why I was in school after asking a simple question!

    Anyways, I could go on but my point is that this was a very difficult situation for me being a pretty layed-back person. However if someone criticizes me I typically set out to prove them wrong, even if it is out of spite (is it possible to be layed back and stubborn??). I managed to keep my sanity for two more years and while I could have become disheartened by nurses in general I eventually learned there was really only a handful of about 5 nasty nurses, 5 good ones, and the rest tried to remain as neutral as possible. While I hope and pray my new floor isn't as toxic as this one, this experience helped me learn how to cope with difficult environments, mainly by learning who to listen to and remembering that I am here for patients, not my coworker's approval.
  9. by   Zaphod
    I dont think so. I feel the truth in the posters words-IT IS NOT HER ATTITUDE. Nursing is a sandwich career that is always strugllung with its self-image. It is an ill-defined profession with very blurry boundaries. What we are supposed to know and when we are supposed to not understand anything because we are not MD.
    Im finishing my sec. bachelor in Biology and then I think Ill say goodbye after 2 years ICU. Didnt mind some aspects of it but overall I feel like I have 4 different jobs in one and I only like one of them.
  10. by   Kambili
    Quote from Preeps
    I will admit it here; I hate nursing too. And it takes a lot to admit it. I had such high expectations in nursing school. I was so inspired and excited. I worked really hard and graduated at the top of my class. Now, here I am almost 3 years later and I am demoralized and question my decision often.
    I have only worked on one floor and I can honestly say I had never run into such mean-spirited people in my life. No, not all. There are some nice people I work with but enough to make life miserable. Nursing is a second career for me and in my first one I never had interpersonal problems with co-workers but here. . . so it makes me think it is not me, but them. I hate giving report to mean people. For example, I worked yesterday, had 5 patients and discharged 3 of them! One of them the order was written at 5;00 and I got them out by 6pm. So I had a full admission at 6;30pm and another one coming. Had 3 diabetics to give insulin and six oclock meds and finishing up. But the nurse I gave report to was mean and ugly because I didn't get enough done to satisfy her on the admission. The money is OK and I should appreciate I am employed but I can't believe this is what I was so excited about initially.
    u echo my feelings. Reality world of nursing is terrible. very terrible. i hate it. but i keep telling myself its just the floor. maybe if i transfer to a different floor within the hospital i will like it. and to prove to myself its just the floor, every now and then i would put in to work on other floors and its always different. i just hope its not different because i am not a regular on those floors. the politic behing nursing, management, charge nursing drama plus coworker drama makes me sick!
  11. by   dlatimer
    I appreciate reading the posts from people who are relatively new to nursing and those who have changed careers and have problems with the double standard and unrealistic demands of the job in hospitals.

    Do you think there is a disconnect between what is taught in school and what the job really demands? I would suggest that nursing schools are not aware of the true working conditions in hospitals, but the statement itself seems unrealistic. Nursing schools work in cooperation with hospitals. The needs of both are fulfilled by the student nurse. Could it be that nursing schools nurture the ‘care giver and compassionate’ side of students, knowing they will be in for a huge disappointment, but hoping the students fresh attitude will soften some of the older nurses who have been abused for years?

    It would be interesting to know how many nurses become inactive vs. new nurses per year. I think the health care system is broken and the way nurses are used is a symptom of a larger corporate culture that places profits before people. Is greed as ubiquitous and accepted as the norm in every level of life? I hope not, but also know I can only control me.
  12. by   Zaphod
    I think the nursing school would never tell the truth to the students because they themselves are profit driven. Probably half of the students would sign out if they understood the abuse they are in for. Some suggestions to fix the system. Make BSN entrance degree. Have a clear career ladder and incentives for nurses to further their education. Nursing as it is now could probably stand to be split in two different professions in the hospital. I have MSN nurses with wealth of knowledge working side by side with nurses who have their diploma and they both make the same wage and are treated the same by the hospital. I know I might get backlash for this, but this shows that we as nurses do not value education. If we do not treat our profession with respect and do not take pride in our education, how are other profession to respect us.
    example Speech pathologist - entrance-Masters
    Physical therapy-entrance Doctoral degree etc.
  13. by   Thank_You_RNs
    Me too. Now, that ive been through the end of the tunnel, the light is not even that better. I've spoken with some of my friends who are teachers, accountants, mechanics, etc.. they all seems to like their jobs and happy. Not frustrated and bitter like some of the RNs i've work in the past. What happened to being a Florence N? Is this behavior change normal? I think someone should do a CASE STUDY on this and find out!!!!! I think nursing schools should be upfront with their students about the working conditions of being a nurse and not just profit driven. I dont think our working conditions is not going to get better anytime soon. Sorry...Especially with the current recession, its just going to get worse ($$$$ talks).
    My solution, transfer to a unit that you like best with less backstabbing nurses who eats their young (goodluck on that!). Or go back to school, get your Masters degree (NP, CNS, etc.) equals less dirty work, less patient contact, work regular 8 hour job, lots of RESPECT, have your own office, happy stomach and smiley bladder, and less B*****.
    Sorry for being too honest.