Finding Happiness??? Can it be done?

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I am new grad working in a SNF. I work two 16 hour shifts on the weekend which means I have five days off a week. To most people that would be a dream but honestly it is not. Everyone works during the week so not only am I by myself all week...I miss out on everything they are doing on the weekends. Today I am sitting here on the couch with nothing to do and I am trying to figure out why I am so miserable. I do not like my job, the patient load is ridiculous and unsafe but we all know that already. PLUS they call me everyday that I am off to work extra...it is starting to become a real irritation because the last thing I want to think about is that hell hole but I am reminded everyday. Then I feel guilty about not calling them back or saying no because really am I doing anything productive???? NO I am sitting here on the couch watching tv. I have been applying elsewhere but no such luck... I just cannot seem to find any happiness in my life. I thought that after I got out of school I would be so happy. Be making decent money (which I am) but that things would be so much more joyful. I cant seem to find any hobbies that I enjoy or can stick to. I go to the mall but can't find anything to buy. I just had thought it was going to be different.... sigh... Maybe I am just having an off day and feeling sorry for myself. I really think I need to do something fun but I cannot think of anything that I find enjoyable right now.

UGGHHH and as I am typing this they called me to ask if I can work tomorrow....:mad: Just because I kill myself two days a week does not mean I can work everyday as well!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for reading and letting me vent....

Specializes in LTC, Disease Management, smoking Cessati.

Happiness comes from within ourselves, it truly is "an inside job". Meaning you are the only one that can make you happy... find a new job, keep trying, but also find what you enjoy, what makes you happy? Make the choice, then work toward digging inside yourself to fulfill that goal... no job, no thing or no other person can make you happy, you must be happy within yourself first! Good Luck...

the work overload and the stress is overwhelming. been doing this for 15 years now and still not used to it. the noise level of nonstop alarms that i have no staff to go check does not help either. all i think of is be careful of what you wish for you might get it. BUT no the bright side i make almost 30.00 an hour so if i make 2,000 for the month then my bills are paid. so i do not work full time like most of my friends. when i think of going back to college have no idea for what and also would have to be full time. SO i suck it up and try to hang tough. could be worse. could have a job i hate and get paid 13.00 like most of my friends do.

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.

1. When they ask you to pick up a shift during the week, tell them that you will consider it only if you can trade a weekend day for it -- without losing your weekends only benefits. They probably won't do that for you on any regular basis, but they might consider doing that every now and then if they are really desparate during the week.

2. Use 1 day during the week to do something good for others. Volunteer for a few hours per week doing something totally different from nursing. It might help you get over your depression. It will also help you meet new people, feel good about yourself, etc.

3. Use 1 day per week to improve yourself. It might be something totally personal (such as get physically fit ... or take a "fun" class to learn a new hobby). It could also be something professional that would help you qualify for a better job in the future.

#2 and #3 would still leave you with plenty of time off to rest, etc. But they would add positive things to do with that stretch of 5 days off that would help you move forward.

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