Feeling emotional

[History101]

I was seeking employment as a registered nurse. I called the director of nursing at a local long term care. I left her a message letting her know I work on on one in home health and asked her to all me back if she thinks I am fit for the position. I left my number so she an call me back.

she called me a few weeks later asking me to apply. I applied the next day.

she then called me for an interview

i went shopping for interview attire.

Prepared well with common interview questions.

i arrived 15 minutes early. I started to feel uneasy when she made me wait 30 minutes to come and greet me.

She finally arrived and took me to her office.

She first asked me what my prior experience is as if I did not tell her before.

She then went on to to say my lack of experience is not a good fit for the position which she said requires independence and experience.

She then went on to speak about how hard the job is for about 10 minutes none stop.

She then asked for my phone number as if she has never called me before.

She then said she may consider me for a different shift where I may find a preceptor.

After 15 minutes of speaking about how difficult not only the job but the people I will be working with are, she asked me what my strengths are as I responded she wrote my answers down.

Then the interview ended.

on my way home I felt puzzled as to why as the director she doesn't speak with the workers she described as rough hard to deal with. Why as the director she doesn't tell them to get along with others instead of telling people to deal with them.

Why did she ask me to apply for the position but during the interview speak in length as to why I am not a fit.

Has this ever happened to any one of you.

if so how did you handle it?

[Pangea Reunited, ASN, RN]

I can see why you'd be annoyed, but not necessarily emotional. When interviewers talk about how difficult the position is, it's a mini test of your commitment. They want to make sure you know what you're getting into and are prepared to stick it out and succeed. I would have handled it by assuring the interviewer that I was up for the challenge, a fast learner, etc. If you felt (and more importantly looked) defeated, you might have decreased your chances of being offered a position.

[OscarTheOwl]

If a manager went on and on about how difficult the PEOPLE on the unit were, I'd run in the opposite direction. Doesn't sound promising. I've always had managers boast about staff being a huge asset and the "team" mentality.

Maybe the unit IS staffed with difficult people and the interviewer felt you were not a good fit.

[VivaLasViejas, ASN, RN]

If a manager went on and on about how difficult the PEOPLE on the unit were, I'd run in the opposite direction. Doesn't sound promising. I've always had managers boast about staff being a huge asset and the "team" mentality.

Maybe the unit IS staffed with difficult people and the interviewer felt you were not a good fit.

In which case she did you a favor by not hiring you. Not everyone is fortunate enough to be warned ahead of time that the unit is a problem area. Count your blessings and move forward with your job search.

[verene, MSN]

Remember that the interview is as much a time to interview the employer as it is for them to interview you. If you have an icky/upset feeling walking out of the interview then the place/management are probably not a good fit for *you.* It sounds like there are likely management and potential personality issues that make this facility a place you may not want to work. Even if she calls you back about the other shift you now know there are problems with this facility/her and can decline.