i am 23 years old & will be starting nrsng school fa/08. i haven't told any1 i am leaving (except my mother) b/c i don't want to hear criticism, judgement, laughter (negative, like laughing at me), &doubt anymore. why is my family so unsupportive? i feel so lonely. i worked at a clinic as a cna & never have i had so much fun working somewhere. i work at a temp agency earning $11/hr & have $2000 in bank. here is a chart of my family.
age:occupancy
brothera (42yrs old):wantsmom to move in w/him &leave me the house along w/my father in it.obviously doesn't want me to finish school/have support from my mother.
sistera (40yrs old):housewife, wants me to get braces cost$5,000.don't exactly know how she feels, she'son vacation &maybe i'll talk to her when she gets back.
sisterb (39yrs old):hygenist, wants me to take a vacation to see her this summer costs $1,500. wants mom to move in w/her. yesterday i asked her how my bro is (she visited him) & she started to tell me how he's making $5,000 for outsite art projects! thanks sis for making me feel poor:)
brob (36yrs old):engineer,wants me to work at his job as a secretary & not go to school b/c he remembers the debt that he had to pay off &doesn't want me to go through that. when his children tell him that they want to be a doctor/chef, he is encouraging. my neice wants to be a dr. he doesn't discourage her.
broc (33yrs old):don't know occupation, but i know earns $27/hr. after i told him how much my education would cost, his response is like, "do you have to do that." "that" is nursing. it would've been nice to hear something like, "you'll find a way to do it," or something less negative.
brod (30yrs old): graphic artist. is probably the only 1 who supports my decision. i don't think that this is exactly what he agrees w/& that is ok b/c he backs me up &gave me this advice (2weeks ago). "you should do whatever you want to, it is your decision, listen to everyone who gives you advice/comments on your aspirations, but ultimaltly ignore what they say &make your decision." i guess it is hard to do that when 6other people tell you otherwise, but i am trying and it is going so slowly.
what do i do, who do i turn to? icried this morning b/c it's like i feel alone. i mean i have coworkers who are excited for me and congradulate me, but what about my family - how can i have them be supportive, how?
Thank you for all your comments. What do i do when those who are unsupportive asks me questions about my school,work,etc? I don't want to tell them ne-thing b/c they'll start putting me down, but I can't ignore them b/c they're sitting right next to me. Family functions are the worst, I have a BIG family & every1 attacks me w/ questions. In fact yesterday my bro (the 1who is UNsupportive) asked me where I was working. I didn't want to tell him where so i said, "nowhere." He then turned to my mother (who was sitting next to him) & told her that she should get me a job at her factory, then after awhile I can get a promotion &work as a secretary!!
IMO You tell them that you are going to school to be a nurse, because it is one of the most admired professions in the world. That even though nursing is a high pay recession proof field, that you are going into it because it is a caring profession. You can also tell them that getting into nursing school is a huge accomplishment. That millions apply but only a small percentage actually make it into nursing school and that even fewer make it through the rigorous coursework and become nurses. The opinion that matters the most is yours. Take care and give yourself lots of pats on the back. Regards, Jean
this morning b/c it's like i feel alone. i mean i have coworkers who are excited for me and congradulate me, but what about my family - how can i have them be supportive, how?
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Thank you for all your comments. What do i do when those who are unsupportive asks me questions about my school,work,etc? I don't want to tell them ne-thing b/c they'll start putting me down, but I can't ignore them b/c they're sitting right next to me. Family functions are the worst, I have a BIG family & every1 attacks me w/ questions. In fact yesterday my bro (the 1who is UNsupportive) asked me where I was working. I didn't want to tell him where so i said, "nowhere." He then turned to my mother (who was sitting next to him) & told her that she should get me a job at her factory, then after awhile I can get a promotion &work as a secretary!!