Good evening. I've been a member of Allnurses since last year. It has helped guide me through my prenursing journey to acceptance into the competitive ADN program I applied to. I worked hard, through last summer all of the way through this previous spring semester to achieve the 3.6 gpa I have. I scored in the 99th percentile on the Pax-Rn. I was very proud to get accepted into the AND program I applied to.
Well, it just so happens that, this previous January during thr spring semester, I lost my job that I had been on for 7 years. I was devastated. I had given that job much of myself, and they just threw me away like a piece of trash. I applied for unemployment, which I was approved for. I've obviously encountered some financial hardship since, being that my unemployment is less than half of what I was making.
After no luck finding a job, I went ahead and enrolled full-time this summer. This made me a trainee as far as the Dept of Labor said, which means that I was to cease my work search and concntrate on my studies. I began to look at what happened with my job as possibly a blessing in disguise, as I would have had to probably leave anyway once the nursing program started.
The problem I'm encountering is my family. Both of my sisters are not supportive at all. They call me lazy....say I'm too sorry to work. I've worked since I was 16 (I'm now 29), oftentimes two jobs. The job that I lost...I was salaried, working close to 60 hrs/wk. I thought the circumstances lined up perfectly for me to pursue my dream of being in nursing.
They constantly make me feel like crap. They talk about me to other members of my family. They say "they went to work and went to school....you can too". They don't realize that I did as well when I was younger, maintaining almost 4.0gpa while doing so for two years.
Nursing school is very unique: they don't understand that, for most, they can't work while in RN school at all. At best, some manage to hold down a part time job. Most don't work at all. They faculty even advises us not to work. Working a part time job wouldn't even pay me more than I receive with my benefits.
The only people that have supported me are my parents. My mother is a nurse, and she understands the rigors of nursing school. She told me she thought I made an excellent choice, making a short-term sacrifice for long-term security and happiness. My father also supported me, telling me that it was time I went for it, doing something for a living that was a rewarding and that I could actually enjoy somewhat. Sadly, he passed away last month.
Now, I'm still excited. I can't wait for school to start this fall. My mother continues to support me, as well as my friends. However, I can't help but feel discouraged at times when some of my family feels like they do about me. Well, sorry for the long post. Just needed to vent. I'm gonna stay the course and do the best I can.Anyone else encountered anything similar?
Yeah, I don't think that is what you were implying, but anyway.....
Just like you've already decided unemployed people don't want to work, regardless of what they say?
Shocking.
What world are you living in? I don't know where you are from, but around me, that is what people are all about. Living on unemployment and working the system. I am not saying these things to be mean. It is the truth and it is getting worse and worse every day.
You know, you seem to be the type that is just going to argue with everything I say, so I am going to end it right here and no longer feed your need to fight with someone. I was trying to comment on the original post and try to encourage someone, and here you are just trying to start trouble. Good luck being a nurse with that attitude!!
Sometimes family can be the one's that hurt us the most. If this is a dream of yours than do not let ANYONE stand in your way. Keep your head held high and use their negativity as your drive to show them that you can and WILL do this. It's definitely jealousy despite what they say. Use this time to bond even more with your mother..And that is probably where your sister's jealousy stems from..I wish you the best of luck in school..Stay focused and stay driven and nothing nor no one will stand in your way!!
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